My step mom goes "I wasn't going to tell you what to do with your child but..."

No girl 😂 stop right there. You don't tell me what to do with my child period. No buts. I will gladly listen to what worked for your babies if I have an issue, but I don't want unsolicited advice telling me what to do. Saying "this worked for me, maybe it'll work for you too." is different than say "only do this! Don't do that."