I'm having a baby with a total stranger that was my summer fling, yet my life love since I was 16…

is the person you're having a baby with involved?

Yes he wants to be a family. But I don't think that's what I want my ex and I tried for kids for 5 years and had 3 miscarriages . I've only known my baby's father for 4 months and it was unplanned.

@ingridm89,

I think if the love of your life and you are more fit for a family, and know eachother better, and have more experience of being with eachother, that would be better for your child.

Rather than being with a stranger, you'll be raising a baby with a stranger and that's not healthy

@bentleysmomma, that's really good advice hun thanks I hadn't thought of it like that

Keep your options open.

I wouldn't commit to anyone this early in your pregnancy if your not completely sure.

If they love you and baby then they're going to show you with actions not words.

You have a good amount of time for all of you to get yourselves ready for a baby.

Ask yourself if you choose one over the other and things don't work out, what will happen with baby? The biological dad will always have rights too. So will he get to be involved if you choose the ex bf? So many questions. So many what if's?

I happen to overthink everything. But when it comes to my kids that's a good thing.

Baby comes first. Make every decision based on that and you'll do fine. Good luck!

do whats best for you because if you love your baby as much as i think you do the person who you love will also love your baby. thats all that matters that your baby is born and raised with peolle who love him or her.

@brownsugarluv, thats my struggle too I over think everything ! I'm constantly talking to myself in my head . But your right I have time to think it all out. I would never keep the baby from his biological father unless I feel he is unfit . But I just don't think I want to make a relationship work the way he does. I've been living with him since I found out because i wanted to give it a try but it's not the same as are carefree summer . Now we have nothing in common and I'm starting to see an aggressive side to him when he doesn't get wat he wants . It's just tough all the way

@j.beltran, your right I love my peanut already and don't want nothing but the best for him/her I just don't know what that is yet . For all I know being with out either of them is my best choice . Lord knows . Thank god I have 26 weeks to figure it out . I pray god gives me a sign

@mommy1987, I appreciate your input love I hope the best for your situation . Last thing I want is to hurt any one . Really considering staying alone until my baby is born and see where things go from there

i hope you figure things out too. if being without both of them is best than be without both for now. just make sure that you are happy in your decisions.

@j.beltran, thanks mumma I appreciate all the help and support

of course. anytime