So apparently I'm not supposed to ask for help with my boyfriend in the middle of the night because…

So apparently I'm not supposed to ask for help with my boyfriend in the middle of the night because he works and I don't right now. I got mad because he put the diaper on so tight the straps were completely stretched out. But my family can talk shit on him and call a loser etc. but if I get upset I'm nagging because he's lazy.