Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (34 нед.)

⚠⚠ I really really need some advice ⚠⚠

So I met this guy who really makes me happy. We've been talking to each other since October, a week or two after me and my ex ended it. He's super sweet and wants to support me during my pregnancy and help with the baby afterward because that's how much he cares for me and wants to be with me. And he's done so much for me in the little time I've known him. So I told my mom about him. Before we were just friends but I feel like I'm finally ready to move on from my past and give him a try. I do sort of like him too. But she got mad and said she doesn't want me seeing him cuz he lives far away (he's in Jersey I'm in Connecticut), he's too old (he's 30), and she doesn't like his type (he's not a very social guy). She said the only guy that's ever gonna be around my baby is my brother. Now let me repeat she said the only guy going to be around MY baby.... I got so upset I just wanted to cry right there. And she noticed she hurt my feelings and all she could say is that she doesn't like him cuz he's too old to be anti social.

Now in the past the only guys I've ever really been in to were older guys and guys who others would find weird or odd. Idk why but that was my type. And she knew that. When I was hanging with a guy older than her and she thought I was sleeping with him (😷😷😷😒) that was completely ok. But someone who actually cares about me. Someone who hasn't placed a finger on me in the intention to hurt me is seen as a bad guy. I really want to move on. But I want him to feel accepted by me and my family. The only problem is my mom.

I'm a grown lady. And I realize that for my child's sake I need to start being the leader of my own life but I don't want my mom to be upset with the choices I make because at the end of the day I still have respect for the person who is letting me stay in her overcrowded house with a baby on the way.

So I guess what I'm asking for is what should I do. I'm keeping him in my life no matter what. But should I keep seeing him or keep it digital till I move out of my moms place.

It's hard to say when you live with parents. You kinda have to respect their wishes even as an adult. I moved out at 18 to go to school by 19 i had a place. im 28 now and only in the past 2 years has my mom treated me like an adult. i had to sit her down and tell her that i respect her as an adult and i need her to respect me too. that goes for the choices i make because as an adult i have to live with them

Zaria Powell13.12.2016

Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (34 нед.)

Thank you guys so much for your help. I really needed it. I was getting tired of crying cuz I didn't know what to do. I just wanna be happy.

And I'm so glad things worked out for you two @maygi0221 that gives me inspiration to go for it. And I hope my fate will be similar to yours 😊

My mom has never even met him before @patti28 and before we started traveling to see each other she would say I could use him for child support and it's a good thing he wants to help with the baby. Now that I have feelings for him it's the complete opposite.

@twinpeanut I actually am working on getting my own place but she doesn't want me to. I think it would be more convenient for us all considering we have 5-7 people living in a 3.5 bedroom house with me having the half bedroom plus a baby on the way. She keeps saying I don't need to move out but won't give a reason why. In order to move out I need to build my credit tho because I don't have any and she don't help. She just says I don't need to get a credit card to build credit. I don't know any other way tho. I feel like she's still trying to be a mommy which I understand maybe she's just not ready to let us grow up. But I want her to understand that I'm about to be a mommy as well and I want her to accept that I need to do things on my own with minimal help. The only help I want is help transitioning to be more independent

⚠⚠ I really really need some advice ⚠⚠

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