I'm really trying to hold my tongue and not say anything but how you honestly gonna tell my daughter's father he is the…

I'm really trying to hold my tongue and not say anything but how you honestly gonna tell my daughter's father he is the better parent(when even he admits he not and could be a way better father) and than without even asking me(she is my primary custody and unless I'm at work she is always with me) just makes plans without me or even asking me that y'all gonna come see my daughter and not include me honestly trying to keep peace with this person but she pushing my limits