Do any of you ladies have in laws that are very close to your husband's ex? how do you feel about…

I am not in that situation, but I would not be okay with that whatsoever and it would really hurt me. My exs mom was like this and I think above all else as a parent you should be on your child's side. So when that relationship is over it should be over with you too. That really irks me.

Oh no it's not the parents it's my husband's step sister that is still very close to his ex. When I found out I started feeling a way towards her, I feel like I can't trust her tbh. She's always calling me sis and saying she loves me but I still don't trust her and I've told her that I don't like the situation and she was like well they are over and I would never do anything to hurt you. My husband's biological sisters have nothing to do with the girl though @babymay2016

my sister in law is friends with my husbands ex and it pissed me off so much because(i wanted a good relationship with my sister in law) but then when i found out she was friends with her on facebook etc me and my husband both deleted our accounts and I dont talk to her. i feel like it should be one or the other.

Yeah I would not trust her at all. Obviously you can't tell where her loyalties lie, unless she were to cut her off (which is what she SHOULD do). That would make me super uncomfortable.

Yea I just felt like maybe I'm overreacting about the situation but she recently graduated and asked me and my husband if we were going to be there and we didn't go, and I'm glad we didn't because I go on to instagram and she has his ex there taking pictures with her. I mean that's his step sister but my Father in law has been marrier to her mom forever so this is something I'll have to deal with as long as we're married, and she was like I hope you can get past this because when something big happens in my life like my wedding she'll be there smh @jade2017 @babymay2016

Well maybe one day she will grow up and understand why you feel the way you do. I totally understand and I would feel the same way. I don't think you're being dramatic about it. She is making the decision for you, knowing that she is still going to have that friend there when it makes you uncomfortable. That's super upsetting but she knows how you feel and does not care. The only one who is expected to sacrifice something is you. Screw that

I'm still friends with my brother's ex wife. She the mother of my nieces and nephew. We became really close while they were together. We don't talk as much now because she has moved to another state has a boyfriend. But she's definitely the sister I longed to have. My brother's new wife doesn't really talk to me. I'm cordial with her. I have nothing against her. I respect both ladies. When my dad died, the ex wife came to the funeral and my mom's house afterwards. Everyone knows their relationship is over but kids are involved so it's all about respect on my end. As long as boundaries are kept there should not be any issues.

Yea if there were kids then that would be different, me and his step sister have fun amd have great conversations when we're together but I feel like her bond with the other girl is stronger and I just picture the bond we have being fake and her talking about what me and my husband have going on to his ex. They are always together and she still lives with my in laws so the girl is at their house a lot too. Do you think the bond you have with your brother's current wife is because of the bond you have with his ex? @kimrenee

Not sure... Our relationship was always weird from jump street... She just struck me as a fake from day one... But I genuinely gave her a chance... I even told her that if I was her I wouldn't marry my brother because he has some growing up to do... They are not together right now but he's still legally married to her. My brother has a new friend now and he knows she can not come around until he cleans up his marriage situation first.

Well it's good that you gave her a chance some people aren't too friendly I get that. @kimrenee

Now your situation on the other hand would upset me because I don't know if I could ever truly trust her fully. Like if I told her something in confidence how would I know you are not going to go back and tell his ex.

Yea that's exactly how I feel about it but I had a talk with her and my husband at one time and they were like it ended a long time ago because there was nothing there anymore so I've left it alone but seeing her in her graduation pics and her telling me about a cruise they went on together brought it back up @kimrenee