#momlifechats Today with Dr. Christi about mom shaming, self-esteem, motherhood and more! Please…
#momlifechats Today with Dr. Christi about mom shaming, self-esteem, motherhood and more! Please follow @drchristihibbert and our posts for the next hour! Ask questions in the comments and Dr. Christi will try to answer them.
Q3 What is your take on mom shaming? We recently surveyed our moms, and the results were astounding. About 80% of mom have been shamed, mostly for parenting choices? And most shamers were moms themselves. Could you shed some light into this dynamic?
Christi Hibbert·
A3 It's awful so many are still feeling shamed on a regular basis, but unfortunately it's not surprising to me. It's so easy for us to get stuck in "our way" and then to beleive it's the "best" or "only" way. This leads to intentional or unintentional shaming about choices, when in reality, it's CRUCIAL we each do this parenting thing our own way. No one knows your specific situation. No one knows your specific children. And no one is the expert on your family's needs but YOU. If we could hold our tongues, see the differences in our situations and what works, and just love one another, we'd all be so much happier and feeling so much more loved and supported.
Moms of the US, unite!·
Мама дочки-младенца
@drchristihibbert, Q4 Love your response and insight! Mom shaming is so hurtful. Why do you think it affects us so much, especially our self confidence?
Christi Hibbert·
A4 It's the worst to feel "attacked" at the heart of what matters most to you, and that's exactly what mom shaming does. We are all just trying to figure this motherhood thing out, and as I said before, we each have our own unique situations. Since we're all just doing this for the first time, we don't KNOW 100% what we're doing, right? Even if I have 6 kids, I still don't know what I'm doing with every one of them, because they're all so unique and what worked for one doesn't work for others. This makes us vulnerable from the start. When someone criticizes in that vulnerable area, it hits extra hard. It makes us question, "Am I a terrible mother?" when really, the criticism says so much more about the person who gave it. It's called "projection," and the things we criticize others for are usually the things WE most need to work on. That's why they bother us in the first place and we feel the need to criticize.
Sarah·
Мама сына-младенца
We as mothers are constantly hit with so many things about how to parent this way or that way and the medical field is no help or is often the cause of the initial split of opinions for example circumscribed or not. as a mom we are constantly insecure of is this really the right way and especially first time moms are vulnerable to all the different options and so they try everything which is confusing for your baby and so it gets even worse.and your hurting and struggling and doubting and on top of it all you are extremely tired and then here are all these other moms with their opinions and shaming.