Anybody's baby/babies have more than one set of godparents? I'm having trouble deciding on her godmother because each person I've thought of (my best friend, his sister, and my cousin) have in some way been a huge part of our lives and my pregnancy and have helped me a lot and are super in love with Bella, and I have two people in mind who I think should be her godfather (his brother and his cousin), and her father has someone in mind also for her godfather (his best friend) and is assuming one of the three people i have in mind for her godmother (my best friend) is automatically going to be her godmother. I personally have more than one set so I know it's not something that's unheard of, but I also know it isn't common and because it isn't common, I'd probably have a hard time convincing my SO to agree to her having more than one set because he only has one set so he's always trying to use his personal upbringing and his mom's ways as the standard by which we have to raise our little one which is hella obnoxious. What do you ladies think I should do to try to convince him or how should I go about bringing up this idea to him? I really want to get the whole thing settled before Christmas
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@christal95, exactly, plus you never know you may not be able to rely on one set for one thing but you could be able to rely on the other set for it and vice versa, I'm definitely going to make those points to my SO and hopefully he'll be a little more open minded to the idea
@mommagi, lmao I love the if I don't hate everyone by the end 😄 you're definitely right though I thought of a third set of godparents but i think I might be pushing my luck just getting him to agree to a second set lol I'd love for all three of the people I want to be her god mother and his choice and my two choices for her godfather to all be her godparents, oh wow I don't even think I like 20 people enough to consider that! Lol
My son is gonna have two godfathers and one god mother ( if I don't hate everyone by the end of my pregnancy ) but my friends son had about 20 godparents ( including me ) when he was born ... I don't think 2 sets or even 3 is bad .... just don't do 20 lol
@jennc100495, exactly I know the feeling it's always good to have back up because like you said you said never know if a relationship with one is gonna fall out or something happen to them and then the kids don't have God parents I always favored 2 sets of grandparents instead of one because also for me there's a lot of people who were there for daughter and who still is and then people who been there since I was pregnant with my son so I can't just choose one so I deff will go with 2 sets instead of one its convinenet
@christal95, that's the exact same thing my parents did with me, I think it's a great idea because you never know what could happen to the people you choose or your relationship with them, in my case my godmother on my dad's side passed away unexpectedly when I was a teenager and there was also a point prior to that when I was really young where my other set of godparents had been living out of state and struggling financially so they weren't immediately available if needed. I personally think that with my SO and I being as young as we are and our choices for godparents also being our age (with the exception of one of the godmother choices who's 11 years older than me) and having their own stuff going on the actual responsibilities of a godparent is a lot for a single guy and girl to take on at our age when it's not their actual child.
my daughter and my son when he is born is gonna have two set of God parents one set on there dads side and one on my side so if one can take care of them if anything the other ones can @jennc100495
@jennc100495, yes exactly so true rn 💯 but guys are a little close minded so I had to prove my point to my SO for about 2 months then he finally agrees that that's the best way to go cause you never know at the end who still gonna b there or not @jennc100495