So idk what to get my son for xmas. Bc every toy I wanted to get him ( not that many bc he has to much) everyone got him…

I know but you know you want your kid to be so excited at your gift bc it's the best. 😩 @vamommy89

Oh my gosh .... I could have written this myself because I have been going through the same exact delemma. My in laws don't stop buying him stuff and not even for Christmas just in general. For example at thanksgiving my relatives had a ball and my son loved it . So I told my mother in law that I was going to get it for Christmas for him. The NEXT day she gives him a ball. Not even for Christmas and was like "oh I saw it at the store so I got it " uhh did you not hear that I was getting it for him for Christmas??? lol this has happened with all my ideas 😩 I'm completely out of ideas at this point .

He will absolutely love everything he gets. He won't even realize it's from grandma or mom and dad yet. Consider yourself lucky that he has an extended family who loves and cares for him. Payton doesn't have grandparents who give a damn about her. The only one who would have is my dad and he passed in 2011. She doesn't have cousins. Outside of her parents, all she has are my two sisters and that's it. But I think he will love Christmas, regardless. Fill up his stocking, if he has one and get him one or two Christmas gifts, even if it's smaller things. And next year, keep one or two of the gifts secret, so that you and hubby can get them for him lol.

I know he very lucky. I mean my mom never buys him stuff except Christmas and never sees him. Which upsets me but it's whatever I'm never make someone be in my sons life. But that a long story. But I know your right he blessed. You know as the parent I wanted to have thing that was a toy that he would say WOW when sees it. But see everyone was asking what to get him and I only had a few things bc he has to many toys already and I didn't want them getting crap he didn't need. And I'm sorry she doesn't have any grandparents. That's terrible. Does your husband parents aren't there ? @breloya

Yes and its hard bc it's not that ungrateful but I wanted to get him something special. @vamommy89

It's a long story. I'll try to keep it short lol. So, my husband and I kicked it off because we had similar pasts. My mom was abusive in every sense, hated all her kids(she had 4), and was never around for days and weeks at a time. My older sister raised us. She was only 6 years older. My dad loved us, but was in the military for 22 years and worked overseas (Saudi Arabia, Korea, etc). Husbands dad was abusive and just like my mom. But the difference between his other parent who "cared" was that she was a bad druggie and overdosed when my husband was 8. He found her dead. My dad died from heart problems. He never did drugs or smoked or drunk alcohol. So that's why I said I knew for sure he'd love and be in Pay's life. He loved his first grandkids. He only got to meet her cause she was born in 2009. So my husbands step mom and his dad don't give a damn about Pay. And I know girl. As a parent, we want to be the ones to get our kids the best and most amazing gift. Next year, have the other adults get him like stuff he needs, like clothes, shoes, and other stuff he will need. It'll help you guys save money cause you won't have to get him all that stuff later. And you get his toys.

That's what I tried to do but no one wanted to get him that stuff they wanted to get toys 🙄 and I knew if I didn't give him toys ideas they get him toys he doesn't need. And he has to many. And girl I'm sooo sorry. You sound like you had a rough childhood like me with your mom. So long I could write a book 😒 I will never understand mom that don't be moms. Bc all the things my mom did and things she does now I don't understand bc as a mom I could never imagine. I'm sure you think the same and that's what makes us such good moms that we are. I fight every damn day to be the best mom I can be bc I NEVER wanna be my mom. And I know I'm not. @breloya

Oh gosh. They're so difficult lol. I understand though. I wouldn't want a bunch of useless stuff around the house after Christmas either. 😓And pretty much. My childhood was so shitty. I actually did start writing a book when I was a teenager. I just never finished it. I wrote a poem in high school that I had to read aloud and cried so hard while reciting it. It was called "why couldn't you love me" or something like that. That's what drives me to be the best mom I can be as well.

Yes exactly bc the boy has to many toys now. And aww man your strong. I never hardly talked abt my childhood except for my best friend when I was a teen. Now idc bc I'm not ashamed as much of some the things she did. And I'm over it so now it makes it a little easier to talk abt. Some things are still hard. But the one thing we can thank them for is they made us be the best moms ever ! @breloya

They did, without even knowing it. We're so much better because of them.