My SO and mother choose the time now to have differences with each other. Smh this crap hurts b/c…
My SO and mother choose the time now to have differences with each other. Smh this crap hurts b/c it's hindering my relationship. I can't be with no one who don't want to be around my family. I jump when it comes to spending time with yours, because I know it's important to you. But when it comes to mine you want to make a excuse. When you love someone you make sacrifices for that person regardless if it's something you want or don't. It's crazy. We about to bring a child in this world but you can't be around my family. If you can't be around my family and love them like I do then I can't be with you. Family is so important to me, and one thing a person not gone do is drive me away from mines. If something is important to the person your In love with you do want you have to do to make that person happy. I feel like that will eventually happen since he doesn't like coming around. If this does not get fixed I will eventually have to say goodbye to this relationship, this family we have built everything. If you rather pick to lose this relationship rather than get along with my family and put how you feel aside for the betterment of our relationship and my happiness then you truly isn't for me. #prayingforbetter #rantover
Jessica·
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girl I have a similar problem but certainly not to the same degree but my hubby can sometimes be really rude and not want to come with me to visit my family or it has to be timed but like you I jump at the chance to be with his cause I know how important it is to him and I love his family dearly to but half of the time I have to go to my family alone but it's been getting better maybe cause he knows it's important for me and the baby so I pray that your situation gets better 🙏
rocd·
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I pray it does too. And that's exactly how it is my with SO. He wants to know how long we gone be there or why. To me if I just want to go spend time with my family then that's that. I shouldn't have a reason to want to see my family. But when it comes to his I'm always ready to jump because like you stated. I love my SO family as well like my own. I have to go to family events alone, and he don't understand how it makes me look to always go empty sided to family event when we are suppose to be as one. You support me like I support you. It just hurts. I'm tired of dealing with it. @jessgnov
Jessica·
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@jessgnov, yes I feel you it sucks to have to explain and when I go he texting me when are you coming back and if I take him with me he always has this look in his face like can we leave now can we go now it's soo annoying but hey if you have a good relationship with his family do you think you can mention it to his mom mainly so she can knock some sense into him and see that your really not asking for much and it's only fair my hubby mom also explains to him like you need to be nice and fair what if it was the other way around for you and she never let you see us kinda thing you know? maybe that may help?
dawn·
just my opinion. but when I married my husband he became my family. he is my best friend, my provider, the father of our soon to be 1st born. we have been together 8 years before bringing a child into the world and dated 7 years before getting married. him and my brother had problems for a few years when we started dating. my family is Native American and he is African American... so race play a issue with my family and him never once was it a question If I would choose my family over him. but now since we are married, i'll always have his back. family will always be there for you, but they have to respect who you love. I kbow my husband still really doesn't like my brother but respects him and puts his differences aside out of respect for me. if I had any doubts in my mind that the negativity would continue and give me ill feeling to my SO I would have never married him. he is my family now. idk that's just my thoughts and story.
rocd·
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His mom died at a early age.. So he only has his dad. But I will try to talk to him about it to come to some type of agreement. Hopefully we can come to one. We have a child on the way. We don't need extra issues. @jessgnov
rocd·
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I don't want to leave him but I do want to scare him about it I believe it will get better because he doesn't want to leave me but I'm tired of dealing with the issue because it's causing drama with my mother and him. And I hate to have to choose over two important people in my life. It's impossible. So I feel like they both should put their differences aside because if my mother wants me happy she should put aside how she feel and Vice versa. That's goes for both of them. I don't want to get pulled away from my family or him. @dawnrose but with me and him living together I will get pulled away from my family before I get pulled away from him and that I don't want.
rocd·
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But what you said really made sense though. It puts a lot of things into perspective for me. Thanks for sharing your story. ❤️ @dawnrose makes a lot of sense.
dawn·
you're welcome.