*this is a long one* Tonight has been stressful to say the least I've been In tears most the…

*this is a long one* Tonight has been stressful to say the least I've been In tears most the night😞my Nan who we live with is a bit unpredictable due to dementia, her underlying PTSD issues and usually booze so since we moved my mum who looks after her card buys her wine gets her 5% or less wine so we have no issue with her

today we had a lot of people in and out the house (she isn't used to anyone she doesn't know in the house) and the dr diagnosed her with dementia and is now on tablets for it.. stupidly my mum gave her 8% wine and we had the mother of kick offs tonight she went to bed about 9 which is late for her she normally goes about 4/5 or 6 and randomly woke up screaming at me ( baring in mind I was the phone to my agency about my new job) to move the ladder, trying to kick off at tom, screaming at me, trying to push me down the steps, saying she's kicking us out and saying I was trying to hurt her when I should be caring for her! Now it's hard enough being a first time mum, a fiancé, going back to work and on top of this looking after her and being on eggshells around her and not making the house into home because it isn't it's her! Now I broke down to my mum explaining how hard it is on me and how hard it is for me and Tom and all the above but the response I get back is 'you don't look after her you don't do anything she's fine, go to sleep' ... it's hard for me to open up to anyone especially to her for this simple reason she always brushes my feelings under the carpet and always has done! This was her idea to move in and I'm starting to think it's only because she didn't want to look after my Nan anymore it wasn't because she wanted us to have somewhere to live just finding it all extremely stressful and difficult :(