Please someone explain to me why someone is shaming me for spending more time on my newborn than my…

Please someone explain to me why someone is shaming me for spending more time on my newborn than my other kids cause I'm being shamed right now that I play and spend time with Azrael more than I do my 2 and 4 year what part of I was just cut the fuck open doesn't this wrench get I'm spending time with him while I fucking heal cause I'm still open from a c section 2 almost 3 weeks later god I swear if my husband doesn't get me outta here I'm gonna fucking flip and go ape shit