Y'all I am so frustrated! I know many of y'all haven't heard of what they are calling "the great…

maybe you 2 can cook together .;) tell her plenty of children in america and around the world have Nothing to eat!

^that sounds like a super awesome idea. You can also ask her what she likes and try and explore healthy ways to make the dishes. It could be a learning experience

@sherrynygirl, we do cook together at times. Both of my girls and myself. I try to tell her that and she just shrugs. 😳

@yourmodernmomma I will have to try that but hopefully I can find healthier ways to remake the foods she does eat and her still eat them. We can't get pizza and fast food every night just so she'll eat. I pray I find something that works soon.

@yourmodernmomma, @sherrynygirl Those are both great ideas!!! It's not easy for children to adjust to too much change all at once (from my experience). Not everyone is a health nut. I myself am trying to make a transition into a healthier lifestyle and it is hard for me, so I can only imagine how hard it is for a 9 year old that just lost everything. Be patient with her. I'm sure things will get better eventually. Like the 2 ladies said at the top, find some healthy ways to make some of her favorite foods..together! I'm sure it'll be fun for the both of you! I hope everything works out!!

@paigeann051786, I am taking into consideration that there's a lot going on in her life right now especially with the behavioral problems and her adjusting to a more structured household all the time not just on the weekend. But she's been doing since her dad and I moved in together it's not a new development I guess it's more frustrating to deal with now bc it's not just once or twice a week it's very single time I cook now. But I am def going to try these ideas so hopefully she can see the fun side of healthy and hopefully bring back the things she's learned when she goes back with her mom after all the flood stuff is worked out.

I pretty much only eat once a day. I am VERY picky. I grew up on unhealthy stuff too

my mom's parents both died when she was 12 yrs old with in 3 months and a day of each other.She should be grateful she has a roof over her head and a family who loves her.things can be replaced people can't.My son's are 21 yrs old and 13.I am 37 so i have exp being a mom and expecting my 3 rd son in dec..Children need to feel love.safe.good environment and children are very adaptable..i think its a great idea to ask her 1 night a week what she wants to eat and help her cook it healthier..not a health nut by far..but..i don't eat what my oldest son eats.and my younger son just started eating meat.hot dogs.while in camp..and me i love pasta. but..not so much red sauce haha.so our dinners are interesting

@momma_beffers, My husband is picky too. Its frustrating lol.

i have a question...beffers...is that nickname?

My name is Beth (short for Elizabeth) and my sister gave me the nick name Beffer but spelled it Bepherr lol

beffers is a nicknames lol name is Bethany. I always wanted to be named Elizabeth when I was little

@momma_beffers, that is awesome! I hate being called Elizabeth. Its Beth or Bepherr that's it lol. That is so crazy to meet another Beffer(s)

I'm also aunt beffy

@sherrynygirl, I agree. She should be grateful. I spend more time with her then her mom and dad now. Her mom is staying in another town and her dad (my husband) works A LOT. I expect more appreciation from her than I'm getting. It's almost like she's purposely giving me a hard time and I have enough on my plate already. I would think she would respect me more now. But we don't let her get away with things here. She has to do chores and there is consequences for her actions.

@mrslasyone, She should def have chores and rules and appreciate you.you seem like a good caring mom. always expect respect from her.

@sherrynygirl, I do but she still just disrespects me. My son and daughter do not dare speak to me or act the way she does but i have taught them manners and respect from the get go. I just got my hands on her and teaching her this far along is HARD. But I finally found a punishment that works. I punish her from her mom (she goes to her on the weekends) and her mom is totally okay with it. Since this punishment is in place she's seemed to straighten out a little.

@momma_beffers, me too ☺☺

well her dad your husband needs to talk to her as well and not let a 9 yr old act this way.Maybe she needs counseling.

get some ramen noodles and corn dogs and if she want that give her that she will get tired of looking at them homemade plates and have a change of heart

@sherrynygirl, he does but to he honest I'm the disciplinary to all our kids. It's very frustrating and we talk about this often. And she is in counseling at school. since the flood and the move and all. @mybabynme. you'd think that would work but she'd eat that mess and smirk thinking she got away with something nc she didn't have to do what I told her too.

you cant really get mad at her for picking at food she not use to eatting.....

let her know thats all she gone get so she better eat up or be hungry

hell and all that disrespectful stuff wouldnt fly with me ... im not one to tell a person how to deal with they kids she sound like she need 3 to the butt @mrslasyone

@ashleymonae, I really try not to get upset but when she's been sitting there for over an hour picking at it just so I'll get upset and let her get up then it really makes me mad. I don't let her anything else. I give her a time limit and tell her it better be eaten or she's going to bed without supper. And I'll send her to bed at 6 if that's what time it is.

@mrslasyone, give her that same plate tomorrow!

@ashleymonae, I like that idea! She FINALLY ate it.

@mrslasyone, she will learn when she do stuff like that put that same play up.and give it back to her! aint no wasting food

@ashleymonae, I completely agree. Especially when my pregnant butt stood in front of that hot stove and cooked it and her daddy's hard earned money bought it lol