I feel like I've been slapped in the face :( I was txting my husband about picking our son up from…

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wow thats fucked up and they need to mind they own damn biz and your husband needs to get it together sorry but not sorry your his wife he should never let ANYONE make comments as such or do things that may cause a riffle in yall marriage . yall have no control over how yall kids come out looking like

@jeanetta25, no I agree. I wanted to say as much but I'm too hurt to talk to him right now so I'm keeping silent until I calm down. we've been married over 2 years now. it bothers me so much that he'd doubt me like that

thats crazy and im sorry that your feeling are hurt as such by nonsense . yes take your time and calm dowm gather your thoughts and feeling and have a serious talk with your husband when you can talk without being angry or really emotional so you get your point across. and hopefully he gets it and will stop and control his friends mouth and actions as well . i know you cant fully control people and what they do and say but you can demand respect and he should tell them to respect you and you guys marriage . @rosiel49

He knows it's his baby. He's just butt hurt cause he looks like you 😋 don't let it get to you! My baby's father when I first told him i was pregnant tried to say I wasn't physically with him around the time I got pregnant. And I quickly was like oh yes I was I was up at your house both of those weeks!! And he was like oooooh yeah you were. He's lucky I didn't rip into him about it I just quickly put him in his place with facts!

@jeanetta25, I will. idk why it hurt me so much. maybe because things have been a little rocky lately. and his disrespectful friends don't help nothing at all, idk why they're still around even when all they do is shit on him. but imma talk to him seriously once I calm down. thanks for the support 💗

@missjess, I hope that's just the case. we were living together when I got pregnant with my son so he has to know the facts, but his dumb ass friends are always bringing up my last before me and him dated (I was a little wild) and always saying stupid shit. I wish he'd defend me for once. he's always been the type to stay quiet and not say a damn thing in me or my families defense.

You have a right to be hurt . I'd be hurt too !!! I hope the talk goes in your favor good luck @rosiel49

I hear you there! My ex is the same way, he avoids conflict at any cost! So annoying. It would be nice for him to have your back though. I would talk to him about it if it really bothers you. I'm sure he probably wasn't serious about referring to your child as not his because he looks like you. I thought my ex would of gave me a hard time about our son but he didn't. Sometimes I feel like he looks at him and wonders. But our son resembles him so he can't say shit. I'm sure it will all ok! :)

@jeanetta25, thank you :) @missjess hopefully it will be. I'm going to have a talk with him. thanks for he support! love having you mamas to talk to. it helps so much

you definitely have a reason to be hurt and im hoping he isnt letting them influence his thinking when it comes to your children. babies dont have to look like either parent. they could resemble someone further down the family tree. that's the way genes work. so ummmmmmmmm yea ima need him to get his life all the way together. and yes lil man looks just like u. guess your genes are dominant over his. that's all

My husband avoids conflict, too, because he was raised in an abusive chaotic home so he tries to avoid any kind of conflict. However, he causes a lot of it himself because of the issues he's dealing with from the abuse as a child. He also brings up the fact that our baby might not be his because his ex got pregnant and let him raise the child for two years then told him it wasn't his. She did cheat on him continuously and she finally told him she's not his. That hurt him badly so he questions me now but I don't get offended by it because I know the pain he went through before. I will do anything to prove this baby is his because I love him deeply. As far as the friends go and your situation they need to learn to mind their own business but they won't until your husband takes a stand. My husband let his family interfere quite a bit causing a lot of problems for us and I told him we wouldn't last if it continued. He finally got to the point of telling them how it is. They still say things but he ignores their comment or just tells them what he thinks. They know their boundaries now. You two have to take a stand together for your family. Don't let it fall apart because of outsiders. Maybe you could start saying things to him like, oh wow he smiles just you do or he has that look in his eyes that you get when.... you know, make him feel like daddy of the year. He'll catch on. 😉

And by the way, he has his daddy's eyes. You have the more dominant features but I still see your husband in him. And love your sons hair!!

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@morganmommy79, I try to. I always comment on how his expressions are 100% my husbands and his crooked smile is his and things like that. my family also non stop is always pointing out and comparing how much he looks like my husband. for some reason he just listens to his friends. I've always been the one to stand up for us (I'm firey and maybe a bit crazy lol) but I do it cuz I love us. I had to stand up to his mother when she'd do nothing but call and complain about her marriage and dump all her problems on him but refused to speak to any if her other children. it got to a point that he was always with her and never with us because she needed "support" when she was really completely fine and making up stories. I just wish he'd actually stand up for us this once. I'm getting tired of being the only one fighting

@rosiel49, I know it's difficult fighting alone. It's all worth it in the end tho. Family ❤️. He'll eventually come around. Friends don't last forever in some cases but they are very influential, unfortunately. Let him just see in you the truth and eventually what they say will just be words and nothing more. That little boy looks like him too. I can see it. I think a lot of men wonder because people base everything on looks. As he grows up he'll most likely take on more of his features. Even if he doesn't that doesn't make him any less of his son. He just needs better friends and an outsider to say how his son looks like his daddy too. 😊

@morganmommy79, I'll keep at it. thanks for the support. it helps a lot. I'll keep telling him. and showing him especially with how much our son loves him

@morganmommy79, I'll keep at it. thanks for the support. it helps a lot. I'll keep telling him. and showing him especially with how much our son loves him