I love my mother in law and we have a great relationship. recently she has expressed interest in…

It wouldn't be fair if only your mom is in there and his mom isn't. Whenever that time to push you won't even care who sees what.

i don't have any friends that had their mother in law with them in the delivery room. I dont think it's unfair. especially if it makes me uncomfortable. I just don't know how to let her know. @irishtwinmomma

It's not about people pleasing it's about pleasing you! If someone in the room makes you uncomfortable it can cause delay or complications in your labor. If you have to hurt feelings to get the birth you want than do it.

How would that not be fair @irishtwinmomma that's her mother! Also, there is no such thing as fair or unfair in birth. It isn't a show. It's an intimate moment in a womans life where she and her needs/wants have to be respected in every way. Nobody but her significant other was in the bedroom making that baby with them, and nobody else has the right to be in the room with them when the baby is being born unless they so choose. Other people need to stop making birth about them and realize it's about the mother.

With that said......just tell her the hospital only allows 2 guests in the delivery room.

It's his mother grandchild as well so it's not fair to have one in there and not the other. @arivera64 I can't see how anyone would not see it that way. Her and her man made that baby not her, her man and mom. It's all about being fair since she's a people pleaser. Why not just have you and dad in the room and everyone can come after yall have had time to bond.

I think you need to tell her how you feel. I don't think it's unfair because I know it's an intimate time between mommy, daddy, and baby. The whole mom of the mom being in there is a bonding experience and an honor to have with your mom as an entrance to the greatest blessing in life. I understand a mil is a grandma too but it isn't about the relationship to the baby. it is the relationship to the mother and is it a bond she is willing to share? So you do what makes you happy. If you aren't 100% comfortable with her being in there for any reason, let her know that you took serious time and thought on this but decided against it.

I felt the same and next thing I know is I'm getting the balloons placed for induction and my mom in law saw it all afterwards I don't really mind thinking back on it. we're close and we even say we love each Other so to me I feel that we're close enough.

but I had csection so only me and my hubby were there if I had vaginal I think I would do the same and it would just be me my mom and my hubby. I would just tell her in whatever way you feel just let it out she has no choice but respect it. just get it done with before you procrastinate and it's time to have your baby.

at first I didn't want my mother in law in the delivery room with me I let her nd im glad I did but when your labor you wouldn't really care I puked twice during labor my only concern was to get my baby out bc pushing for 2 hours nd couldn't breathe bc I was sick nd my epidural work until I started pushing but she just wants to experience it with you but always remember it's yours and your husbands choice no one else's

My mother in law wants to be in there as well... which is crazy I don't want to hurt her feelings o don't even want my own mother in there I just want it to be a me and my husband and baby experience. TBH I think im just gonna make my husband say something

you still have a little time to decide. I can tell you that once you are in labor you are not going to give a crap who sees you naked. if this is your 1st and her 1st grand baby its just as important that she be apart of it. at the end of the day it's completely your decision and the nurses and doctors will do whatever you want. even if you want people taken out of the room when it's time to start pushing.

you guys have all been super helpful! @arivera64 @ilovemyfamily123 @irishtwinmomma @liz41395 @mommyofdoubletrouble @mommyoftimothy @ssdj4 @taea98 so thank you so much. really, I'm not having my mom in there as any kind of honor but more to help me deal with any fear. she has helped me through anxiety my whole life and knows how to calm me down. my husband comforts me as well but I know this is scary for him too and I don't want to put it all on him to keep me calm and not be able to calm himself as well. I guess, aside from feeling vulnerable in front of my mil, i dont feel like I want her in there because she won't be able to help in anyway like both my mom and husband will. I think @ssdj4 is right, I'll just tell her that I thoroughly considered it and decided against it. we are very close but I don't want to be worrying about her feeling or if she's seeing something I'd rather she didn't when im in a lot of pain.

that's kind of along what I meant as our mom's help us through hard times and this is one that we are really scared and need our mommy's to help us through it. I didn't know how to word it. @fruitloop13. I wish you luck momma.

Honestly once u are in all that pain nothing else matters but trying to find ways to make the pain go away. I don't have a great relationship with my mother in law and I wasn't planning on having her in the delivery room when my baby was born but when the time came I was in so much pain and the nurses asked me what I wanted to do and my husband wanted his mom there too that I allowed her to witness it. But really her seeing my woohaa was the last thing on my mind lol.. hope this helps!