So I went to court this morning because my oldest son's father refuses to help with childcare or…

Well who does your son stay with the majority of the time? Whoever has the child more than six months of the year gets to claim them. My SO and I just fought about this the other day but obviously I'm claiming him because he is always in my care!

My son lives with me and I was under the impression that if the non custodial parent pays at least halh of all of the child's expenses, they have the right to claim the child during tax season @babymay2016

I really thought it just depended on who they stay with more than 6 months out of the year. Maybe it is different here.

If the child stays with you more then 6 months out of the year your claim him. Not your ex technically that's illegal

No ma'am if the child lives with you then he has no right to file him unless you want him to. Plus you're paying most of his expenses anyway. As long as he's in your custody he will always be your dependent.@2gents1ladyontheway @babymay2016 you're right

So should I go back to get more help with childcare? I just thought how much he paid would be a factor @92angel @babymay2016

I mean according to him they aren't bringing much in now and he is not consistent with his payments @92angel

No you didn't let him off too easy considering the situation that was nice of you. But for him to say your husband should be helping with your sons expenses was kind out of line on his behalf because that's your son. There is nothing wrong with him helping. Really that's awesome if he does . But he's doing out of love for you two. But just because he is the stepfather doesn't give your ex the right to speak of him doing the things that your ex should be doing instead. You handled this very classy in my opinion.

How much he pay isn't a factor. And if he is not consistent then yes I would go back to court and as soon as his living situation changes I would go to court for help with his expenses. But it all goes by his income. They are only going to take a certain amount regardless of how much all the child's expenses are. They can't take what he don't have.

I try thank you ma'am, especially with the mess they put me through his wife and a female cousin of his msg me on fb calling me all out my name and he says he has nothing to do with it and he never says anything bad about me to them, but his cousin seems to think I live off of the 350 he gives a month lmao, he has no respect for me that's why I feel like I let him off easy on top of him taking care of another woman's child @92angel but thank you for the advice love.

I understand exactly where you coming from. Maybe he's jealous of you and your husband and that's why he's trying to take you through hell. But don't let him get the best of you! Show him that your son will be taken care of regardless. Rock it girl.

And you're welcome 😊

Yea I've been asking for help with childcare since January of this year outside of court and he has been saying he'll send me what he has left and never does and taxes were initially apart of the agreement to be fair but he's not holding up his end so that's something that had to be changed and I think his income is a factor in what he pays too @beebaby