So I am supposed to move in with my mom bc my father has terminal cancer. We are discussing finances and expectations. I…
So I am supposed to move in with my mom bc my father has terminal cancer. We are discussing finances and expectations. I know the house would be hers too but my brother and his gf smoke pot and my sister-in-law is an alcoholic. I don't want that going on in or around my home and especially around my daughter. She passed a comment that well if I can't have who I want over then I won't live with you. First off, i am doing her the favor of taking her in. My fiancée is a recovering alcoholic. She will sit there with my brother, my sister in law and my aunt and get drunk for fun. It's something I fought so hard to help my fiancée overcome and something I don't want around my children.
Crystal·
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if you have that big of an issue with it then you shouldn't move in with them. I can understand not wanting to live with a bunch of Alcoholics expecially if your significant other is a recovered alcoholic. I personally don't see anything wrong with pot being in the household but that's not my judgment to make cuz those aren't my kids.
Dominique·
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@reyesmomma, my mom isn't an alcoholic but the others are. She is an enabler and was a very big enabler to my fiancée. Also, my fiancée is on probation and pot is still illegal. That's why I can't have it around 😕
Crystal·
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yeah sometimes I don't think about that because I live in Washington state so it doesn't really matter here
Dominique·
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@reyesmomma, I also don't judge other people's choice of lifestyle however I do have the right to say what I want around my children. I do drink when I am not pregnant but a glass or two of wine. I haven't drank since my partner became sober bc I feel that's something I can sacrifice as support to him.
🎀Jacqui🎀·
Think of the positives and negatives that you will get out of it, if the negatives outweigh the positives then reconsider. You and you SO have gone through a lot and putting him in a position where alcohol will be present and tempting could cause him to relapse. The fact that she's an enabler is trouble and it's not fair to your family. You know what's best for your family mama do what you feel is right for your daughter and fiancé because at the end of the day it's going to be u guys no one else. Hope everything works out mama
Dominique·
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@mrscruz0530, thank you so much for the advice! You're right I will write down the positive and negatives and weighty options! 😘