Would you kick your mom and brother out if she doesn't contribute to the mortgage or any bills just…
Would you kick your mom and brother out if she doesn't contribute to the mortgage or any bills just groceries here and there when she has food stamps? She use to help with my kids but now she just lays in bed all day until my brother is home. This has been going on for 3 years and I'm fed up and just want them out, I also have an older sister with twin toddlers and she just had another baby a few days ago and my mom keeps asking me to let them all come back because they have no place to go but I've let this happen several times over the course of years too and I don't feel bad for my sister anymore because she lays with these men having babies she can't take care of and expects my mom to take care of them and me to shelter them and she doesn't want to work or clean when I ask her to and she lets her kids run around my house unsupervised and breaking shit. Am I wrong for wanting nothing to do with them anymore? I just want to enjoy MY family in MY house!
Kelsey·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (26 нед.)
you can't help people who don't want to help themselves. you have tried for 3 years to make it work. honestly I wouldn't be able to deal with it anymore. at some point you need to say enough is enough and just focus on your family. I don't think you are wrong for wanting them out. it really isn't your job to support your mother or your sister since you have helped them what sounds like a lot in the past.
Renee·
I think you answered your own question darling. You have your own life and it's time that they start respecting that. You are not a bad person for kicking them out especially if this has been going on for years it's not fair to you to have to support them when it looks like none of them want to support themselves. Family is family but sometimes even that isn't enough when it comes down to respect and knowing your limits, it just seems like they over stayed their stay and it's not your responsibility to hold everyone down you have your own little family you created to take care of now
noreen·
u not wrong at all sometime family the one bring you down and put you through hell. a person can only take so much. anyone would be fed up!
🎀Jacqui🎀·
Your not wrong at all girl they've overstayed there welcome. For your sister don't let them come she's had plenty of time to think this through. Your mom and brother I think you need to have a house meeting and tell them what you expect of them and if they can't respect that then they need to go. You have your own family to worry about.
Emily·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (2 нед.)
It's hard with family but I do not think you are wrong. I totally would see why you just want you and your family
Ally·
your are not wrong at all. not one bit. it just feels that way because it's family. and they know you will do anything for them so they are taking advatage. tell your mother to move in with her. they will all figure it out
Laila Yamili Soto Hdz·
Мама дочки-младенца, беременна (38 нед.)
I feel like your mom and sister can both work and move out and get a place that isn't expensive... your right for not wanting then there, it's your home and you need your own privacy too...
Jessica·
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it's hard with family but it's called tough love and if she not helping it's not fair for her to stay she need to help you out in some way or form from taking care of the kids helping out with the food since she has food stamps or helping clean your house it seems like your the mom and she and your sister are irresponsible you stick to your guns your house your rules and they need to start helping if they want to live their I'm sorry they put you in such a position I imagine it sucks having to make these decisions because you love them but you don't love that they take advantage of your love and you are not in the wrong!
Crystal·
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I wouldn't put up with it. There comes to a point where you're Just getting used.
Ashton·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
Thank all of you ladies for your advice you all make great points I do feel like me and my husband are being taken advantage of but I just felt like I would be doing a bad thing by making them leave with no where to go, I do feel like my mom and sister are too old to be living bill free on me and my husband @justjazz it's so bad now when we grocery shop we can't buy certain foods because steak is too expensive to buy with the extra people in the house smh they don't have a place because my mom has relied on social security my brother was bringing in to pay rent and bills until he passed away 3 years ago and she's never worked as i was coming up so now my mom basically has no income and my sister relies on my mom to take care of her she doesn't work either even when she had no kids she wouldn't keep a job, i left joined the Navy started a family bought a brand new 5 bedroom home to accommodate them and they promised to help with bills but it hasn't happened and my husband has been nice about it too and I know he wants to explode sometimes @kmharr3 @reneechristine @dimples1 @edomke @allyk.xmommy @candidbabex @laila92 @jessgnov @reyesmomma @beebaby
Crystal·
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@2gents1ladyontheway yeah if they aren't willing to help themselves then they don't deserve other people to be helping them family or not. people have to want to better themselves first. They should be working and helping you out. instead of taking advantage of you and expecting you and your husband to be the sole providers.