So mommies I could use a lot of advice !! So I have a 7yr old son who's my whole life I had him at…
So mommies I could use a lot of advice !! So I have a 7yr old son who's my whole life I had him at 18 so he pretty much watch me grow up before his eyes in a way we been through so much together . His dad passed away 3 yrs ago when he was 4 and it's been beyond rough dealing with the fact that it's forever and nothing we can do to bring him back .my son been my rock these 3yrs he's pushed me to move on and love again because he wants me to be happy and he wants a father figure a family . Well as we know I'm pregnant and my princess father is amazing he's great with my son my son really likes him . But he still of course misses his dad like crazy and to see others kids bond with they dad hurts his feeling which breaks my heart !!! He's beyond happy about having a sister he can't wait but I'm afraid that he will see the bond that his baby sis and her father has and see the difference between the two and become very upset we came so far and I just wanna protect him and his heart I don't want him to feel like his sister was worth having a dad but he wasn't because we both know his dad would have never left us if it was up to him and if he could come back he would but god needed him much more I guess . If my son struggles with more when his sister comes how can I make it better ?? Hell idk if I can I love my daughters dad but I still have days where I break down and cry because it's unfair that we lost his father and I'm not completely over it and since I'm not how wouldi be able to help him if it becomes a issue for him ? My boyfriend wouldn't treat my son any different but he still isn't his dad
sherry S·
Believe me the spirit&soul; live on 👼 i was 30 when my father passed away i saw him take his last breath he was 59..Its 7yrs now since his passing and as the yrs go by seems more difficult...My mom lost her parents when she was 12..within a month of each other..she is a good woman but.not motherly or grandmotherly...I recommend you to always let your son acknowledge his dad in heaven but...never keep his feelings to himself..i had my 1st son at age 16& exactly we grew up u can say together..I wish u and him inner peace*and know the spirit&soul; of your son's father wants the best for U2 and probably chose the man of your daughter for a reason to be in both of your lives ❤
gigi·
what my cousin does , is she tells her daughter to help her with the baby like change the dippers help me shower and give milk. Her that died when she was around 3 . also my cosuin boyfriend calls her daughter and says she s the best sister ever and very helpful. .. talk with ur boyfriend and tell him that ur baby boy know needs you both more . put him to help you guys with the baby and tell him he the best big brother and son.
gigi·
that=*dad
Jeanetta·
Мама сына (7 лет), беременна (25 нед.)
Thank you for everything you said that means a lot to me . We always talk about his father and we have pictures of us 3 around the house and we go see him when the weather is decent . But it doesn't make it any better . I thought at some point it will get easier . I mean it has in a way but at the same time it hasn't . I feel like I moved on because I had too and my son wanted me to get back to the old me not because I actually wanted too . Once again my boyfriend is awesome he understands that it's still hard for us he let me cry to him about it and he doesn't shut me up he just let me go through it and hold me and tell me it'll get better . He a blessing but he's not my son father . And if I feel this way it kills me to think how it will affect my son when she's born . Maybe I'm over thinking and he'll have no problem with seeing there bond and it's just my own fear I hope !! @sherrynygirl
Jeanetta·
Мама сына (7 лет), беременна (25 нед.)
He's excited about the baby . I know he's going to be a great big brother he helps a lot now like picking out her name and all her baby stuff he comes to sonos with me and he already knows how to change diapers and etc I have God children who are babies and he's awesome with them . So he can't wait till she comes cause she gets to stay with us lol . He's very protective of my tummy it's so cute . So I'm sure he'll be fine with her !! Just worried about how he feel when it goes from me him and my boyfriend to the 4 of us considering she'll have her dad around all the time and he can't . Hopefully I'm over thinking and he won't feel any way about seeing them two together and my boyfriend will make sure that he still spends the same amount of time with him that he does now @maygi0221
gigi·
it will be fine hun . I know it's heart breaking, but you will see at the end everything will work out . 💖💗💞
Jess·
That's hard. My older brothers dad died when he was like 9 months old. So he grew up not ever having a dad. My grandparents tried to step in in that place like if us twins were with our dad my grAndparents would take my older brother and do things with him. It's tough I still to this day can't imagine not having a father. I'm sure one day he'll understand better, but he will always miss his dad regardless of any man in his life. And that's normal you just do your best for both of you and he'll be ok :)
Jeanetta·
Мама сына (7 лет), беременна (25 нед.)
I know he'll always miss his dad . I just don't want him to back track since we've came so far believe it or not he's been the family rock while we checked out he's been the strong one because he thinks that's what his dad would want . He's always coming to me asking me how I feel am i okay what am I thinking . So when he have weak moments it kills me I Always cry way before he do which upsets him more in the end but idk how to control those feeling yet . I just want to be strong for him when he needs me to be and I'm afraid because im not there yet . But we do have many ways to make ourselves feel better when we have bad days . My mom said he's tough and I could be just over thinking it if he hasn't expressed any of these feeling this is far and she could be right . So im just goin to pray on it and try to go to his grave site that usually picks me up because I feel like he's right there with me when I go talk to him @missjess