am I terrible person for letting my daughter cry to sleep? she always wakes up after I set het dowm.…

Do not feel bad! Sometimes you have to. You are in no way a bad person or mother. I had to let my son cry it out a couple times. Don't let him make you feel bad.

No you're not. I went through the same thing! Everytime my son would cry I would go pick him up and put him in the bed with me (that lasted until he was maybe 9 months old) then he learned that if he woke up and cried i would put him in the bed with me and it became a habit. I finally said enough is enough and let him cry himself to sleep, I followed the "cry it out method"routine and within a week he would just go to sleep. He is now one and goes to sleep on his own (with tv). It's nothing to feel bad about, I know hearing your baby crying for you hurts and makes you feel bad but it's best for them. If they don't learn now they will be 5 and sleeping in the bed with you.

well what am I gonna do he goes in and grabs her if I don't driving me crazy @marinarose @kathale95

@babylylasmommy, Oh my goodness no you're not. He can be a terrible parent when she cries horrible for toys when she gets older .. kids cry, you're letting her self soothe it's needed.

I co-sleep, it's not something we planned just naturally fell into, I love sleeping with my baby in my arms however there are nights I want to sleep how I want so bad (on my tummy) and ache for it. but then I remember that my daughter won't always want to sleep with me anymore nor call/seek out for me and she will tell me she wants to sleep in her own bed have her own space.. so I keep in mind that this is temporary and I will miss it when she wakes in the night to look for me. in my opinion there's nothing wrong with going to her every call but I also understand the need for your own space and it does not make you a bad mother.

she doesn't sleep with us at all never did. but fact she wakes up everytime I set her in bed n I get bitched at like how could I let her cry it gets exhasting especially since haven't had this problem before maybe when she was a newborn. but she's almost a year old @loveless

what I say still stands, you're not horrible. if your SO wants to keep going to her let him, unfortunately you can't control his feelings on the matter. I think men have a harder time handling the baby crying, I know mine does he too will give me shit if I "let her" cry longer than a min even when I'm dressing her he says I'm not being sensitive. I don't think men understand that all of our time is with the baby and sometimes it drives us nuts and we need that little bit of personal space.