I really need advice ladies.. My fiancé and my mom don't get along that well because she's very…
I really need advice ladies..
My fiancé and my mom don't get along that well because she's very selfish and her way is the only way when it comes to anything well her and I had a falling out I was already on edge about her coming to the baby shower because I don't want any drama but when we had our argument she was told not to come to the shower because she didn't want to respect what my fiancé or I wanted and it being our child we have more of a say then she does and she doesn't like that but with all the warnings I'm giving her about not to come she tells me that my fiancé and I can just get over it she's gonna be there it's here grandchild and all family will be there and it's not right for her to be excluded...
What are yalls thoughts are we being too harsh by telling her to stay away or are we doing the right thing?
Stephanie·
Мама дочки (6 лет), беременна (20 нед.)
@clara_eakin, only you can answer that. It may not mean that much to you or your fiancé but it could mean the world to your mom to be there.. I don't know it's a hard decision.
Clara eakin·
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I know it's ultimately up to us but it's hard because it is my mom and all but she needs to stop and get it through her head that it is our kid and things will be done how we choose and she should respect that and I know it means the world to her but what other way will she take us serious if we always just let her do what she pleases @leahsmommi
Stephanie·
Мама дочки (6 лет), беременна (20 нед.)
Are you planning on cutting her out? I get where you're coming from I had to tell my parents to back off, then again when my husband and I separated my mom was there to help me. Just think it through carefully, the baby isn't even born yet she's just talking, when the baby is born everyone will have an opinion it's very annoying. @clara_eakin
Clara eakin·
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If she keeps acting the way she is then yes she will be cut out she always down talks my fiancé when he does so much for me and loves me so much and then just tells us we have to get over it like are you serious it just makes me mad and it one thing if it's just about the baby because I understand that we're gonna get everyone's views on what we should do but when she brings him into it that's where it crosses the line@leahsmommi
Stephanie·
Мама дочки (6 лет), беременна (20 нед.)
I get it. It's not cool when my mom does it and she learned to stop. @clara_eakin
Victoria Wilcox·
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My mom is the same way sometimes, just keep yalls plans to yourself and dont mention what you want to her. If she says anything about what she thinks is right ignore it and change the subject. Eventually she will get the idea. It took my mother a bit but this strategy worked with her
Victoria Wilcox·
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Just keep in mind that your mother loves you and is probably just doing her best to help you in yalls time of need. Things may just need time 😊 she is probably terrified to see her baby girl going through something so rough physically.