okay so this might sound stupid but my sister keeps making fun of me saying if I have my baby…

well mines completely the same. i also tore. i've even asked my SO is there a difference and he said no.

I agree with @mamaash i have asked my husband and he said it's the same nothing different and I tore as well

I've had 2 babies, both vaginally with no tearing, and I went completely back to normal. Hubby agrees that it is just like pre-baby down there.

Only ignorant people who have never had a child say things like that... Even if it didn't go back to normal (which is unlikely since the vagina is a muscle) that gives her no right no say some messed up nonsense like that.

kegals... 👍before birth, after birth, & during sex lol @savvylynn1

I was scared of that too but I'm 4 weeks pp and me and the SO finally had sex and he said it was just like the first time. he said I didn't feel loose at all. your body goes back to the way it was before but if you're worried about it after you give birth do kegals not like crazy cause you'll be a little sore but that's what I did and my SO could not believe how well my body bounced back to normal.

I agree with @sarisings

I second what @babyleon and @madison0816 said. Kegels are everything.

Girl no! Your sister is tripping... I have 2 kids & my fiance always says "if i didnot know you had 2 girls i couldnt be able to tell by down there." I tore as well. But when they stitch you they probably even stitch you a little more lol. Cause after you do it for the first time again after baby it feels better than before!