How would you handle this?? My fiancée's cousin and I are 1 month apart in our pregnancies. His…
How would you handle this?? My fiancée's cousin and I are 1 month apart in our pregnancies. His stupid ass aunt just called to say she would like his son to come to the shower. He is in a custody battle for his son. So essentially this would mean that I am not invited to the shower and his son's mother would be. His aunt asked if he was offended and he said no. I just went berserk. I said so you really think I am ok with this? They always "say" how much they love me and how I am the best thing that ever happened to him. They consistently choose his son over us. We aren't invited to events and his son's mother is. I'm ready to dead ALL OF THEM!
t·
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let me be the devil's advocate and say that they are all blood family. that is her nephew so I would assume she would want him around and if the mother has to come to make that happen then sometimes you have to do that because some moms are ignorant. The guy you chose just happens to have ignorant mother for his child. That is something you now have to deal with. But you can make him chose between his 2 families. why can't you go with your husband?
starr·
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just wondering but y can't you go too? u can't exactly expect people to choose you over his child but I understand choosing u over his ex
starr·
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or y does his ex have to go y can't u n him just bring the child
Bianca·
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Why can't you and the other kids mom go? Or better yet, why does she have to go at all?
sherry S·
go with your man and his son its a package deal! fu*k that...
Dominique·
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@bianca_rose, @2queenbee9 @sherrynygirl @starrhunt16 sorry I didn't specify basically his aunt called and said she would be inviting his ex and son and that would mean we were not invited. His ex cannot be around us civilly. I have sucked it up for years. He is battling her for custody. She has kept his son from us for 2.5 years. He is willing to come to any agreement and the judge is extremely annoyed with her stubbornness. My fiancée begged her at the last court hearing to mediate. She said don't ever look at her or speak to her again. I don't expect his family to choose. I expect them to invite both parties and leave it up to us to come. To not extend an invitation to me is hurtful. Especially since they claim they love me so much. His ex and I are polar opposites. In the past we would bring him together when we had custody. She has put an end to it. I am in the family now going on 7 years. I am pregnant with his child. I should be embraced as well. I just don't understand. They are basically choosing his son over me. He's 10. He doesn't know that difference of being invited to a baby shower. Their actions speak volumes....how could I possibly even go now if they do invite. I was second choice.
t·
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Well to be honest. If the situation was how you are explaining I would just no go and let my step son go if it meant there wouldn't be a problem. sometime you have to do selfless acts and put the child first. It depends on the person and situation for sure and it's hard to speak on someone's else situation with out knowing the true story