first of congrats on your 4years of sobriety.❤. if you guys have already exhausted all of your options and assistance then the best thing you can all do is cut him off. the excuses and your grandparents helping him out of a bind, though completely understandable, is his crutch. he knows you guys will be there to clean up his messes. it sucks that they put it out there publicly but for the sake of yourself and your children, distance yourself. love him from far. some people need to fall hard enough, and pick themselves back up before they learn. you will drain your energy trying to fix him. go enjoy being mommy❤ I'm so sorry you're all going through this

@phinnybinz, thanks girl ❤️

I wish I could give you a hug! That's such a rough place to be for everyone!! I really hope he finds the help he needs. Also, congrats on the 4 years!!!! That's a pretty epic accomplishment!

The thing that really pisses me off is just watching all the shit these ppl are saying it's just wrong, I don't go around telling ppl this bc it's private to me but I'm a recovered addict I have going on 4 years clean and I guess it gives me a deeper understanding of what he's going through and that's prob why I try to find excuses for his actions that he doesn't deserve. We have sent him to recovery a few times he just ends up leaving and selling the rx they give him after my grandparents scrape together enough money to get him the help and they really don't have it, they raise his son and he has stolen from everyone in our family it's been so bad at times he's stolen the living room tv in the middle of the night then called the police to report a robbery ... Twice , he's stolen his child's things and money he's stole everything .. Guns from my grandfather, lawnmowers jewlery you name it it's been stolen and I've heard recently feom 5 diff ppl he's said he's going to die getting high and I really try to give every addict the benefit of the doubt and have faith in them that they can get clean but I just don't have that with him it's killing my grandfather and my grandmother just has learned to hate him, he's not allowed in the house so he lives outside under the back porch and she feeds and washes his clothes for him but he showers with the garden hose at night when nobody's around, it's really bad and that's why I say prison instead of recovery bc that's the only place I know he can't do what he's doing 😢@dabcw3814 @jessicruz @jessicruz @mamacodi_09n16 @mamacodi_09n16 @phinnybinz

There's a thin line between support and enabling. I have a lot of experience with addicts. It goes beyond their addiction and affects everyone around them. Sometimes you have say enough is enough. It's hard to do but he has to want the help. Unfortunately, the justice system rarely works as a detox. He needs a therapeutic inpatient rehabilitation. No one can force him to go. You're a good person. You're right how do you turn your back on the ones you love. You will reach that point one day. Just don't offer him money or anything that could subsidize his problem. I feel for you. I've been there many times with loved ones. It hits very close to home.

Honestly, if he's not ready for help then nothing you or anyone else says will help. Even this photo being blasted. It probably wouldn't matter either way to him if you did or didn't say anything. You probably know that by now based on what you've said. I know that sucks but I've been in this situation. You can either be the person that's willing to stick by him when he really wants to try or you can be another person that gives up. No one has the energy to be the person that sticks by and watches someone they love kill themselves and ruin everyone around them. Personally, I wouldn't say anything about the photo. I wouldn't defend him or put him down. He needs to hit rock bottom. 😞

I think he needs help. addiction is not easy at all, not for the addict or for the families. maybe try an intervention? if he doesn't accept the help, then let things go with him. jail isn't the answer for an addict.

Ugh I'm sorry girl that really just sux tho fr! my girls' dad has a brother just like that....it is really tough... but you don't ever see at least his fam talking about him on Facebook or whatever. I mean you just kinda stay silent. if you tried talking to him and he chooses not to listen its on him :( I'm sorry girl again you gotta go through this. it must just kill you...

You have your own life and own family now. Leave it alone

Ty @mamacodi_09n16

@mdomke22, I haven't spoke to him in a year almost, he don't want the help and so I cut him off, but when my grandparents who baby him like shit confronted him with the pic he said it's not him 😑 lol ok .... He really needs to go back to prison for a while I know that may sound real fucked up but it's the only time we can sleep at night is when he's in there and we know he's not dead on a corner or stealing from his own child or us or people being after him, the people who are posting this pic tho are ppl we grew up with and seeing them call him junkie and scum just hurts... I'm not one to ever hold my tongue but I feel like I don't have any say in this situation

Definitely talk to him about his life choices, he's your brother like you said, I'd be the first to whoop my little brothers ass if he decided to turn his life in the wrong direction, its gotta come from the heart! good luck! that sucks :/

I would just not say anything on the pic. but talk to him about it. I fell like with that being your family you just can't put him on blast like that all over the net. better to keep it personal better yall