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I need opinions. Baby daddy wasn't there for twins birth Aug 29th and they have been in NICU ever since. He hasn't…

I need opinions. Baby daddy wasn't there for twins birth Aug 29th and they have been in NICU ever since. He hasn't visited and wanted me to drive him last Thur as he was over being scared of all the tubes and wires. My mom sent him a congrats new father gift , he never acknowledged it. I asked him to check out ( not buy / put on hold) preemie undershirts and diapers, he didn't. Yesterday was our first phone convo since babies were born. He is living with someone. The only concern he has is that I won't let him see the babies. Should I ? I am tired of being let down... Any opinions are so welcome

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mara1313

Mara

Thank you, and I couldn't agree more. When your babies are in NICU, and your smoking weed... Well moms don't do that kind of thing usually

rennysmommy

allysha Hollander

Мама сына (1 год)

If he said he would be there and didn't show on multiple occasions I would be hesitant. No reason to go out of your way and get babies hopes up just to be let down(not now but in future they'll care). Plus if he isn't helping you with anything at all I don't think it's fair either, maybe set something up and tell him this is his chance to keep his word and actually show up and show he's gonna be different and if he doesn't show he can take you to court which of he does that they will say he HAS to pay child support or he won't be able to see them. It isn't fair for either parent to just b in and out and only there when it's convenient for them. You don't get to pick and choose when you want to play dad

reyesmomma

Crystal

В ожидании первенца

@2queenbee9 I agree. but defiantly get child support

mara1313

Mara

I can't get support, one he has two kids , two he can't even pay his rent and doesn't even have a car. Thank you, I think it should be on my terms because he wasn't there. Saying he would be there but never showed up. It's just cruel , especially with NICU twins

tt416

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Мама подростков

He should be allowed to see his children, just on your terms. Not when he wants to but when it is good for both of you. If he can't visit and see them in the hospital then i wpuldnt drop them off by any means

housfullofgrls

Jessie

Мама двоих (4 года, 6 лет), ждёт третьего

No. Get child support and stay away from him

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your…

@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.