RANT: So I really was sick this weekend. I went to the Dr. My father is going through chemo. I have…
RANT: So I really was sick this weekend. I went to the Dr. My father is going through chemo. I have to help my parents with a lot because my mom doesn't drive. I'm not looking for sympathy but I did miss a few days of work. I have sick time so I will be paid. Now my whole 6 year relationship I have worked..... Hard. Never been unemployed sometimes worked two jobs. I was in jobs where I did not have the luxury to have sick time or I just simply could not call out bc there was no one to cover my shift. My fiancée has been through a lot of "personal" problems the last two and a half years. "Personal" bc they became my problems since we share all of the financial responsibilities. We even split up early this year and moved into separate towns. Now he is back with me in MY studio. I pay all the bills, alone. He just started to work last week. He's changed jobs 6-8 times in the last 2.5 years. So my point is he is making me feel so guilty about taking off a few days to make sure I am 100% healed for my baby, myself and so I am cleared to be around my father who is in such a fragile state. My boss even called me yesterday and told me not to worry. His exact words were "You're good, just get better". He knows my situation. I'm in tears bc I feel guilty for taking off.
Nakeia white·
Мама двоих (4 года, 9 лет)
That means your boyfriend is ungrateful and is only using you for stability. I'm sorry about your father. If he stressing and your still getting paid he's the problem not you.
Dominique·
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@nwhite, thank you. I let him take advantage of me in the past obviously. Which is why we separated. Normally, he is pretty understanding of what I want to do. He keeps telling me "something must be going on" "you're not telling me something" "this isn't like you to take off 3 days". 1. I am pregnant so that's definitely different. 2. I have never been able to take off. I would work sick as a dog and prolong healing from colds etc bc I couldn't rest. (I was a retail manager for the last 6 years and a waitress when we first met). He is being so hard headed!
Tee·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
Im sorry he made you feel that way, you sound like a very loving and responsible person. But don't feel bad and never allow someone to pull you down to their level. I don't knows the whole situation but it seems because you're the stable one and his security, he wants to make sure that he has security if anything fails if that is the case that sucks especially with you just being ill and your father going through its selfish. You in no way should feel bad.
Dominique·
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@surprise4, that's what I was thinking. He doesn't know my boss or my job so maybe he feels taking off would jeopardize my position. Then he would have to be more fiscally responsible. Which I have a DR note, Rx and I'm not just taking off to play video games like he used to. PS. He is 35 years old. Not a child.
youa·
don't feel bad girl. he has no right to even talk or have an opinion in this matter. you take care of yourself and not anyone else. taking care of yourself is taking care of that precious little one. ❤
Dominique·
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@moua, agreed! Thank you. This is why I posted. For some support 😘