Topic of the night How do you ladies feel about child's support??? All options matter!!! I feel if the father is doing…

I prefer for the dad to step up and take care of his responsibilities then having to go through authorities

@daedaee93, well yes that as well but if he doesn't, then what would be your next option?

Even if he's involved, it doesn't change the fact that a kid is expensive. My first daughters dad only sees her once a week for 3 hours. He just recently started taking her for an occasional overnight. But he doesn't provide anything for her. So I get child support. But that's just my opinion.

@babymaciesmomma, well he isn't providing so you deserve that, you're not suppose to do everything alone you didn't make her alone.

I feel like if he's supporting his child then he shouldn't have to pay child support but if he just walked out of the baby's life and doesnt do anything then the mom should file for child support.

@babynessa, same way I feel

I'm going through the same so of course my next step is putting him on cs because he gets $700+ every month and all he bought his son were 2 boxes of diapers. he hasn't bought nothing else I asked him 2 in a half weeks ago if he can buy a can of milk that was $25 and he said he didn't have any money and plus he wants too be on cs so I'm going to put him on and get full custody or he gets supervised visits

@daedaee93, that's not right, ion know what be wrong with men how you make a baby and not want to take care of it, but I wish you the best

@cubanese, oh wow that's some fucked up ass shit but when you think about that shit real dudes do that he need to get it together because that makes no damn sense

I don't think child support determines whether he's doing for his kid or not. But just a legal way to ensure that he's financially supporting his child (especially when the parents can't cooperatively co-parent)...... He can b supporting the child financially but it doesn't necessarily means he's doing for the child. Or he could b there physically and not putting in a dime , in which case he's still not "fully" being there. Money isn't everything but it counts & child support is just record of what money he's contributing

I haven't had real life experience in this yet but as of right now I would just prefer her father to stay out of her life. I don't want anything from him, he hasn't been around the whole pregnancy so I don't think he'll be around after birth. I know kids are expensive but I just don't want to give him the opportunity to be even more of a deadbeat by not paying. I've gotten this far and bought everything and paid for Drs appointments by myself so.. If he wants to be a good guy and pitch in and help out, great. If not, mama will find a way.

@cubanese, he's going to regret that shit and the girl he with now is no type of woman my boyfriend has a 4 year and I make sure he do for her cause I'm not having that

My daughters "father" is on cs. He owes $14K and has never paid a dime. The only thing he has ever bought her is a whack ass pair of Jordan's that she outgrew after a month. He goes around telling people I don't let him see her and makes me out to be the bad guy in the situation but he can't pay his child support or even do something as simple as show up to cs court. He lost his rights when I first opened the case against him. The judge took them from him. All the better too. He'd rather smoke/sell weed and partake in criminal activity than be the dad he tries to go around telling people he is. My child does not need that. The only reason I put him on cs was to get help paying for day care through ccms. If it wasn't for that, I would've never put him on child support. It's a waste of my time tbh.

@heykira, much respect to you. I wish you the best , he will try to come around tho

@harleyquinn420, wow now that's fucked up men are horrible like how you not do for your kid then go around saying that I wouldn't let you see my child either. to hell with you

I'm not putting my baby's father on CS. my reasoning behind that is he already has 2 other baby mom's (I didn't know about when we dated) and he can barely afford them.....last thing I want to do is take away a father from his 2 other children. my baby will be provided for no matter what. I'd just rather him not be in my sons life

@jadedplumeria, that's understandable