I'm turning 27 in 2 days. I moved out of my mom's house 3 years ago yet she still tries to tell me what to do at my…

I'm turning 27 in 2 days. I moved out of my mom's house 3 years ago yet she still tries to tell me what to do at my house. My kids and me are her only worry in this world but it still gets under my skin. We can't have a decent convo over the phone without her asking me if I'm done cleaning my house, if I remembered to tell he landlord about something that needed fixing up. I can't remember when the last time she came to my house was bc we always end up arguing if something isn't the way she would like. I take my son to visit very often but I don't judge her. we go to spend time with her, not to see what I can pick on her about-____-