Abit of a controversial subject and I don't need any judgement as I am not judging anyone but.. is…

I gave up smoking from finding out with all 4 of mine but started again shortly after with first two but not last two although I have been very tempted. My sil smokes and drank all the way through both her pregnancies and my ex sil smoked all the way through her pregnancies. It's each to their own I think but I personally don't agree with it.

I don't even smoke, I stopped 3 or 4 years ago now. But all I wanted to do at the begining of pregnancy was have a cigg & a drink! And I know it's just because I knew I couldn't.

I'm not a smoker now used to years ago buy have you tried an e-cig?

aren't e-cigs just as harmful? it's so frustrating because I keep thinking it's just because I know I can't or shouldn't that I want one but I'm so stressed and that was my one vice that just helped pre pregnancy in stressful situations and I'm telling myself my baby doesn't get a choice to say no so it's unfair to do that but then people have said one won't do damage especially since it will be my only one but then again I think I've done well not smoking and giving up cold Turkey as soon as I found out I was pregnant 😭 I'm just fruatrated

@clairey, what's the point of just having one? I'm not judging at all, but you sound like you care so much so I think you'd not enjoy it and would just feel so guilty after! Xx

Sounds like your wanting someone to say 'It's ok one won't hurt'. It's your body & your baby. So ultimately your decision. Personally I think it would be a shame for you to go down that road as you've done so well to stop. One may easily turn into 2 or more. Addiction is very hard. High praise to anyone who manages to go cold turkey but I think it's amazing you do it for your baby @clairey

youve done so well by givin up i would fight temptation its not really worth it.

I probably am looking for someone to just say that if I'm honest.. I'm not going to do it I just want to and I would feel like absolute shit after I had I know I would because my baby didn't have a choice. it's just hard and I'm having a bad couple of days but it's not worth my baby's health just have to suck it up.. thank you

I'm feeling the same I was a smoker before I found out I was pregnant first time...had fags between my pregnancies but am struggling not to smoke this time round purely because I'm having to move house etc and I'm under a lot of stress I do sometimes say to myself that surely all the stress I'm feeling is just as bad...but I am such an addictive person that I know if I risked having one I would struggle not to have anymore. it is such a taboo subject to talk about smoking during pregnancy but it is one of the hardest things to do...especially if you smoked as much as I used too! I feel your pain :) xxx

Just wanted to say i know a lot of girls who dont have the will power to give up for the sake of their growing baby and so You are all amazing and have done great to give up and stay off them so well do ladies ❤❤ I also gave up once i found out i was preggers with my first so i know how hard it is. Your all great mummies already xx

Thanks @tam77 made me feel abit better.. and @amyloux that's what someone told me.. the stress can be worse but the way I'm trying (very hard) to look at it is that I only have 2 weeks left (hopefully or less) and I've done it now for so long and if I have one after she's here then I'll be able to enjoy it more knowing I'm not harming my baby girl xx

Yeah tbh what's a 2 weeks wait considering you've gone this long @clairey ...I'm only 7 weeks so I have a long road ahead of me and like someone else said it would proberly only make you feel guilty if you had one xxx

I know that "vaping" isn't good for you either, but at least its not yet known how it harms you. The way I see it the addictive substance in cigarettes is nicotine, but the worst for you and baby is the burning tar stuff, so maybe if you had some of that electronic cigarette - that would help you with the nerves without the feeling of guilt?