Girls I'm really confused and don't know what to do! My OH is fast asleep next to me and I've been…

I would be absolutely tamping.

I don't know about you but I class that as cheating and I would confront him about it. So sorry that you're going through this :( xx

I don't know what to do , I can't even sleep it just keeps over playing in my mind like a record stuck xx

Well now you've seen it. It can't be unseen. To top it off that's majorly disrespectful to you! God forbid if I ever found stuff like that on my oh phone he'd be out the door in a shot * xx

I'm going to confront him about it but it's finding the right time because I organised a day in Skegness which is today and I've got a induction scan next week :( xx

Awh lovely :( gosh men are assholes I hope you can sort it out in some way. Don't stress too much think of baby xx

I hope so too , Thankyou chick , keeping myself calm for baby is top priority xx

That's alright! Yep you and baby come first xx

If I was you, this is just my personal opinion, I would pack a bag of essentials for a few days and go stop at my parents. I wouldnt even give my oh the chance to talk himself out of it. The way you've said and what you've said it seems clear he has cheated :/ or at least is very willing to and that's just as bad as doing it. You need to get you and your baby out of that situation for the sake of your health. It's okay saying don't get stressed but your totally going to be upset even of your trying your hardest not to be. I don't know how or why men are arseholes. You are carrying his unborn child, selfish idiot he is. Xx

aw my oh would be long gone if he did that😠 your baby now comes first x

It's not as easy as packing essentials and going to stay with my parents as that's where we are. One of the exs he's been speaking to I said to him not to meet her and she's been calling him babe and stuff I generally didn't trust her .. So he's even asking to meet her when j said no xx

Common sense should tell him not to meet up with any woman anyways. Your pregnant with his child. Kick his ass out. You deserve better, and it's unfair to you and your baby putting up with the crap. Even if you forgive him you'd constantly be worried and looking over your shoulder to see what he's up to. xx

I went through a very very similar situation with my first born. He first got all defensive and angry with me for being on his phone!! And trust me you can't hide or cover up the fact you've seen it. It's soul destroying!! Anyway it was after my due date and I told him I'm gone I couldn't bare to look at him and he just grovelled crying his eyes out we lived with his grandparents as well so was difficult to leave as I felt judged! But my dad came picked me up with all my stuff and babies and left a week later I had my little boy and I let Mike be there he new he'd done wrong. But also needed that kick up the bum of me leaving Hun were still together now 3years down the line.. It was very bumpy but I loved him and he loves me and we made it work!! But don't be afraid to get out and teach him a bloody lesson!! Hope that helps hunny! I really do feel for you and if you need a chat I'm here xxx

i wouldnt want to goto skegness with him. dont be silly hun. just tell him straight uve seen them and leave. u need to have more respect for urself and think of ur child

I wudda smacked him in the face with his phone. told him you've seen the messages and to get the f out. had exactly this with an ex. packed my stuff the next day. I no its harder with a baby on the way but you deserve so much better xx

Thanks ladies xxx

if he is doing this now it isn't going to stop once baba comes! I'd kick his arse out n tell him he can see baby but that's it. do not stay with him for the sake of the baby cos it won't work, you will cause yourself more heartache in the long run. us women have a nack to picking ourselves up and starting again. he is a disrespectful arsehole! if you chose to stay with him then you need to expect this to keep happening cos your letting him get away with it xc