I really don't fucking get how a man who was dying to become a father can just sit there and say…

What were to happen if when he got home u said dinners in the oven I'm headed out for some me time ( go get ur nails done or even go sit in a park or go for a walk alone ) that way he's forced to ..

I know it's easier said then done . But make him watch them . I play "me him feel guilty" all the time when I need help when I'm tired of waking up every 2-3 hours at night . I feel ya ! And he could easily take one baby walking while playing the game , heck what baby doesn't like a stroll or car ride .

@10yearslater0205, @miranda941 if I had money for myself I'd so go out but being pregnant I can't do much. And no job.. he's the only one working for us. 😞 but for sure after I have my daughter I am going to look for a job. I am getting tired of getting told "we have no money" when he gets paid every Thursday.. when I just give him our son he says I throw our son at him... I hate arguing with him it's like I'm already doing this myself because of him not helping me much. The only thing he does, that I appreciate so much, is buy what we need. What the kids need. I swear sometimes I wish I shouldn't of got pregnant again but i don't regret my little girl.

@thebaileys, ugh yeh you really can't do much while pregnant with a few month old . Throwing them at him? But his the dad he should be happy to see his son. Your sons 10 months so he has to be playing with toys and cooing or talking . Maybe you should actually have a talk with him . But like not argue and Ik most talks turn into agruements but just say "when you do this it makes me feel " idk maybe he'd understand more

Sounds like you should move on! I can't even imagine, I wish my son's father would do me like that smh I would not be dealing with that. Show him you're serious!!

@thebaileys, why can't u go out pregnant ? It's the principle of making him take over parental duties id go walk around target or the mall even if u don't shop .. Get out of the house period so he's forced to make dinner or play with the kids .. I'd go through more of those steps then to shit can a marriage .. I've been married 19 years it's not rainbows and butterflies but I married at 23 and we both were still growing up and we learned together my husband was 33 when we had our first and he was afraid to do anything afraid of doing it wrong or afraid he didn't know he had to be taught .. Even through counseling last year I was told to stop doing it myself and leave it for him that he would learn what he needed to do .. I was told to make a list .. All of this done nice of course but most importantly what I learned from my therapist or we learned was its okay for me to have me time even if I sit in a car in a park and reads it's good for me and good for him .. Plus ur kids are young and they need both parents .. I'm sorry I know how stressful it is I was there but I promise if u work together it can and does get better

@10yearslater0205, I can't go out because I'm having early labor pains and my doctor wants me to take it easy.. and my mother is worried about me so she doesn't want me going anywhere either.. so she can be there IF something happens :/

@chantebrandon, I'm definitely going to talk to him after he gets off work.. and try to knock some sense into him if not then after our daughter gets here I'm going to get a job and work for my babies.