I feel like I'm gonna get to comfortable being single that I won't ever wanna date again. I'm so…

Tell me about it. I'm so afraid of becoming jaded. But also I can't help not wanting to deal with the drama that comes with the wrong men. I suppose it's all about waiting for the right person. Whomever that ends up being.

@firsttimetarrina, I agree. It's gonna be hard for me to single. I know I could go back to my unborn baby father but idk. I'm sick of being lied to and being unappreciated. I do so much that my soul is hurting. I feel like I didn't just give my heart but I gave him my soul. I just want to be loved. But I don't want to deal with an unloyal ass man.

Girl I feel you @dani4269 .. I did the same thing. Now I'm like does love even exist these days??? But I mean what's meant to be will be. What's meant to fall through will do just that. I think as loyal women we hang on for too long and have too much hope on something we are meant to learn from and just let go. It hurts now.. So damn bad. But in the end it will make us stronger women. As corny as it sounds 😌.

@firsttimetarrina, @michelle2220 I'm glad you girls are strong. I'm still taking baby steps but living in a hard moment. He doesn't get it. He thinks oh she'll be back. I hate that they think like that.

Yeah my ex actually texted me last night after this whole conversation and was saying he wanted to start over and he misses me so much and I become like silly putty 😞bits a damn shame. He did ask me to spend he night and I told him no because I'm tired of running whenever he's ready for me. @michelle2220 @dani4269 I suppose that was a small victory lol.

@firsttimetarrina, story of my life. Smh. I've been trying to keep strong.

@firsttimetarrina, it's been hard some days I want to go back. But I know I can't forgive him this time. Im tired of forgiving over and over. I don't get why he had to put me thru the bs while I'm pregnant made me feel like me and my unborn child was just trash. Smh. I nagged at him but I had every right to nag. He doesn't see it that way.

@firsttimetarrina, @dani4269 I guess I have it a little easier bc he left me for his ex and I haven't heard from him since March. he's been updated about the baby though through friends bc we have the same friends. he thinks the baby isn't his and idk why he thinks that. but this ex is known to cheat on him and leave him and run back so I'm just waiting for the day she leaves again but I'm not going back. he waited to damn long already. I have no trust for him and he destroyed my heart and broke my daughters heart. not happening. I don't even know if I'll let him see his daughter just bc I wanna protect her.

mm ichelle2220, I'm sorry. The moment I became pregnant he started distancing himself. I was patient begging him nagging him cuz he would never be home. By the time he came home I'd be in bed. I told him please baby come home let's enjoy our moments together. Please! Soon we won't have time to spend time together alone. With me breast feeding and everything it's gonna be super hard.

@michelle2220,

Within a week he was talking to a girl already before I even left the house. I talked to her and told her but he worked his magic and still got her. He broke up with her last week and he's been trying to get me back. But I haven't ran back to him. My trust and heart has been shot down for the last time. Men are so cruel. We are carrying their babies. They think they can just be forgiven over and over and over. The girl text him asking if we got back together he told her no. And I know they are hanging out smh. It's ok it's whatever.

@dani4269, @michelle2220 lol Dani you sound just like me.. "It's okay. It's whatever. " wait in not sure if I missed it but how long were you two together? Me and my ex have been together since I was about 18 and I'm 23 now. So he's like deeply embedded into me .. Ew I guess literally and figuratively lol. *so inappropriate* haha. But he's totally been texting me and asking if we can go to couple counseling? Would you two try it? I'm confused. But I really do feel like any guy especially him (lol not at all the typical counseling patient you would assume he would think going to counseling is corny).. But I'm actually considering it. It's not like the typical get back together. He wants to actually try and get along. Which I suppose is good.

@firsttimetarrina, we were together for 4 years. I wish we would go to couples counseling but he makes it sound like I'm the one who should go counseling. I hate that he tries to make it sound like I'm the problem. I give him everything. It sucks. I couldn't get a hold of him today. He text me at 9pm trying to say he couldn't find his phone since last night. That his phone died. So I don't know what to believe. I feel like he was with the girl he tried leaving me before. But realized he loves me. But whatever

It's okay mama @dani4269 .. You sound like right now you need your space from him anyway. And that's okay. Sometimes space can help so much.. For the both of you. It sounds like he just needs to realize that not only was heart with him he's also got a baby on the way. I know a lot of people say this but usually it takes a man seeing his child to fully realize how precious they are. We feel them already. They can't really. Except maybe spiritually but it doesn't sound like he's tapped in with his spirituality at all. Just hang in there sis and put your needs before anything. Because what you really need is the same thing the baby needs. You both need to be at least stress free for the time being..

@firsttimetarrina, I wish he would just chill and be by himself to think. Instead them two hang out. He tells me well I need company cuz you wont come and spend time with me. But I feel like one you got her around for what really?! And at this point makes me wanna let him go cuz of her. She shows interest in him. He can't handle being alone smh.

Isn't tapped in with his spirituality * @dani4269 and yes girl that plays a big role in it!!! When we deny them attention or refused to settle for their bs they look for it elsewhere but just know she's probably only showing him attention because she doesn't really know him the way you do. Four years is a long time to be with someone, I know. Don't give into it. I would ask my ex all the damn time "why can't you just focus on important things? Why do you constantly have to be with a girl?" Does he have a lot going for himself? That can play a big role in the need to always surround yourself with women who show interest in you. My ex didn't have much else going on except for being with his friends and the women they could surround themselves with.