It's sad when I've gotten more love and attention from an ex all the way in Iraq fighting a war then…

girl you need to have a good talk with that man of yours

If only it were that easy 😕@adaraa126 he's to wrapped around his daughters I get no time with him whatsoever. If I tried to talk to him he'd probably get mad that I was taking away from time with his girls. It's pointless 😢@adaraa126

that situation is so unhealthy for you hun..and your baby. being neglected sucks and is horrible on the self esteem

It sucks a lot. I just want to go back home but I feel so trapped here cause I'm pregnant 😢@adaraa126

Aww honey ): how much of a relationship can y'all have if you don't get any time with him? Don't want that to come off mean. Just seems like if that's really the case, it'd be a relationship in name alone, and that's not going to serve either of you. And if y'all can't talk to each other, maybe you need to draw some lines in the sand for him-set boundaries and expectations. If he don't listen or care to try.. Well, there you have it, I guess. /:

I tried talking to him about it before his daughters got here and that was pointless. I moved here for the summer because I felt like if I didn't our relationship wouldn't make it with his daughters here because he acts like sending a text massage when they are here isn't spending time with them. When in reality he's always on his phone with them here so he lied. And I get treated the same living here as I would being back home . I get no love, attention or affection. But he called me a hypocrite because I act the same toward him, the only reason I act like that is because he does toward me. Why should I give him my all when he gives me 0. I haven't got a kiss from him since I moved here in May 😕 and I'm fricking trapped. @evococa

Oh goodness love ;( that doesn't sound good at all. I'm not the one to say "leave" usually, but this is definitely a tough one. Maybe you can say you want to go to counseling with him? It doesn't sound like he'll be very responsive, but maybe you could go yourself? When I went to counseling it really helped me and my hubbys relationship a lot cause I learned to stand up for myself and communicate what I wanted/needed to him. And if all else fails and he still doesn't respond, the counselor will be able to help with moving on if you choose to. ❤️ but I definitely know how you feel. Caleb and I went through something similar - he was just basically a live in guy friend. Turned out, it was cause he was a porn addict and didn't really need ME for that kind of thing. Smh. Prayers it works out for you. But whether you stay or go, you have options ❤️ don't forget that.

I could, but it would have to wait till his daughters leave and then he just goes right back to working 24/7 so he would have no time. I'm due at the end of August, and he acts like we don't have a baby on the way. He's been so absent minded toward this baby my whole pregnancy. We have so much to do to get ready for the baby and he acts like I'm not almost 35 weeks. I keep telling myself to try and hold out until his daughters leave and then we can see how things go with just me and him but I've had about all I can take and idk if I can last another 2 in a half weeks. I'm so unhappy and He acts like im just is roommate. I'm merely just a shadow in the background. @evococa

At this point, I would suggest not getting your hopes up ): being a parent is time consuming, but that's no reason for him to treat you this way. Kids sleep. They play. And you'd said he's always on his phone, so he obviously has time for "him" time. He should be making more effort for YOU. You deserve and need attention. If he can't realize that and give it to you... Maybe he's not your "one". But as my counselor said, you can always change YOUR expectations and wants and accept what you have. Not that I advise that, but it is an option also. I'm sorry you have to go through this, especially being pregnant. Maybe it'll change after baby is born, for the both of you. He could always just assume that everything you say is due to being preggers and just not take it seriously. I'm guessing of course. Chin up though doll. You are worthy and you have choices. 😂

Noooo! I meant ❤️ not 😂. Sorry ): stupid keyboard!!

Thanks @evococa I'm going to my moms for a week. Doubt he'll barely notice I'm gone. He sleeps with his daughters so i don't even get that little bit of time with him. I've been trying to hold out till his daughters leave but I'm just at my breaking point. It's hard I'm in a tough spot and it sucks. And who knows how he'll be when they leave so 😕

Good for you! That will definitely be good for you in any case ❤️ and maybe give you some insight with how he reacts. Relationships are so hard even when both ppl cooperate ): it's impossible when one doesn't even try. ❤️ Good luck. I'm glad you have a supportive mom! (:

Yes super lucky she's the best she's coming to help me when the baby is born ☺️ I need an escape from all this all this stress is not good on me or baby. But thank you so much@evococa

No it's def not! But you're not alone 😊 and you're very welcome. If you ever need to vent you can pm me ❤️ I'm rooting for you!