@mrsthig, yes! he was GREAT in the hospital and I thought hes going to be a big help when we get home...boy did I think wrong! he doesn't even cook dinner! 😣

@bianca_rose so glad I'm not the only one! 😠

@angelao777 I would have thought so too, but I guess I thought wrong. 🤔

@nicolekayo07 very true! You think having kids would make them more responsible but it doesn't seem the case sadly with a lot of men. I hide in the shower too but even door locks don't keep my family from worrying the hell out of me during what seems like my only alone time. Ah what we go through as wives and mothers 😪

I could've wrote all of your comments!!

@mrsthig, I was super excited to have him home with us for 4 weeks after I had her (his company gives men 4 weeks paid for paternal leave) thinking he would be a huge help...here I thought wrong...still got to sleep til 10-11 everyday...and I was getting up every 3-4 hours with her...luckily at 6 and a half weeks old she started sleeping through the night...but not the point...he could get up with her a few times and let me sleep in like I let him! what's the worse is when I sit down to feed her and the dog needs to go out and there he sits on his phone not offering to take and feed her or let the dog out! ugh! it's just the simple things that would be wonderful to have help with!

@nicolekayo07, yup... Everything you're feeling I went through with our daughter... I had to tell him that I would like to take a shower every day versus every 2-3 days! As if I should have to tell him that 😂😒 I'm telling you these men don't get it until you verbally tell them 12 times what you want

@ahauge6, I agree! I asked him to switch the laundry cause I was heading to town...I came home and he was at our pond with a friend and the laundry had never been switched and he even answers yes he would do it! and yes he comes home from work has her for 5-10 minutes passes her to me and sits on his phone! I'm sure come Tuesday I'll be starting my 2 jobs as well!

@mrsthig me too! he complains his back hurts so he can bend over the top part of the pack n play to change her...seriously dude? I may have had a c section but I hurt for a few days after and had to change her, I think you can handle doing it too!

@angelao777 I did spoil him quite a bit...but he's 27, and has a child now! there comes a time where you grow up and start being more of a father! I honestly take my time in the shower because its 15 minutes I can have to myself while he's with her...and then as soon as I get out I can hear her crying...and then he wonders why when he holds her shes fussy...she probably doesn't realize your her daddy because you hardly ever hold or feed her! I'm excited to go to work to get small break from her...I love her with all my heart but a small break would be nice once in awhile!

Mine is the same way... He says I spoiled him too much that he expects it... No his momma spoiled his ass first so he expects that everything does itself. I love my husband to death but if he complains when somethings not done I ask him if his hands are broke and if it bothers him that bad to do it himself.

@karnamarie, I think a good long talk will be coming soon...I'm just so over feeling like I'm a single mother...(props to all the single moms out there! you all deserve so much credit that I'm sure they don't get!) i just hate how he can't even do the simplest little things! drives me crazy!

@nicolekayo07 I had to have a long talk with my husband when our son was a baby and basically say "hey! Took two to conceive it takes two to raise! I'm drowning here help me out!" "That when he said well just tell me then!" They don't get when you say hey the dishwasher is full that you mean can you run the dishwasher? They just here you saying something. So basically you have to tell them to do something directly before they will understand you need there help

@mamamj, so glad I'm not the only one! Lol

@karnamarie, for real though! like I could say, the dishwasher is dirty...and he'll still put his dirty dishes in the sink! the dishwasher and sink are side by side! or can you switch the laundry...(dryer is empty) and yet its like I didn't say a word! or the garbage bag needs to be taken out of the can (and he can clearly see that too) and yet he can't even do that! ughhh! Lol

my husband is the same way. I agree with @karnamarie

Lol, welcome to marriage with children! I seriously think it's just male nature to be more selfish. We have a motherly instinct and everything we do we take our children and husband's into consideration... men are not wired that way.