Alright ladies, so I love my MIL but she is a little over involved for me. I know she is only trying…
Alright ladies, so I love my MIL but she is a little over involved for me. I know she is only trying to be helpful and do what she can for me and the baby, but I lost my mom when I was 10 and so it's been hard for me to have relationships with mother figures anyways, much less one that wants to know everything and involved in all life events. I'm not trying to keep her out of her granddaughter life by any means, but she keeps inviting/asking to go to my appointments. She has been to a couple but now I'm at the end and they are doing cervix checks. My fiancé told her last night that I just felt awkward with her coming at this point and she agreed, but then texted me first thing this morning asking to come. I'm really not trying to make a big deal out of it cause I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I'm having a hard enough time dealing with the fact that my mom isn't here to experience this with me and will miss it all, much less feeling like my MIL is pushing herself on me. How do I handle this? Anyone in a similar situation?
Morgan·
Мама двоих (9 лет, 13 лет), ждёт третьего
You don't need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations just to accommodate her feelings. I understand how you feel. I lost my mum as well. My MIL would be the exact same way if she were any where close to us. I'd be honest with her. I'd pretty much tell her exactly what you just told us. You love her, you want her to be involved, but you're just not comfortable with certain things.
Jennifer·
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I haven't let her come to any appointments where I didn't feel comfortable.. I'm definitely not the person to put myself in that situation for someone else. Honestly I'm more of the person to tell you exactly how it is whether it hurts your feelings or not, but with it being my fiancés mom I'm trying to be nice. I just don't like that she asks every week or that my fiancé told her no yesterday and I still got a text first thing this morning. @phinnybinz I just feel like between that, and trying to figure out how to deal with my emotions about my mom during this time, that I'm going to snap and I'm trying to avoid that.