My relationship with my father has been very back and forth for years, we definitely don't see eye…

Just don't worry about anything... Concentrate on u and the baby!!! But yes respect your father my father died few yrs back n trust me parents are the most precious ppl in the world!!!

I lost my mom when I was 10 so I definitely know what you mean @meera it's a lot of history between us and things just keep coming up. While I will always love him and never wish bad on him, he hadn't been a father since my mom passed away so it's hard to have a relationship with him after all he has done and continues to do. But I would put all that aside of he would come in and do right by my daughter

Damn I'm sorry to hear that. I truly hope it works out. I have that kind of relationship with my mother.

@gcpaschal, thanks, me too! Part of me thinks it would be easier if he didn't show but a huge part of me wants him to care and show up. But at the end of the day I have to focus and worry about my baby girl and that's it.

I had the same feelings and emotions about my Mom. She didn't go to not one doctors appointment with me. She only text me to ask how they were going but that's only because I kept her in the loop. One day she made a comment like "ugh I just want that baby out of her". I had to make a tough decision. I decided it was best for just my husband and I to be at the hospital. It was the best decision I ever made. I didn't want them stealing any part of my joy. I had to simply walk away. It was controlling too much of my life and happiness.

@gcpaschal, we will both have family at the hospital but only us in the room during labor. I just don't know that it's worth the hassle of seeing my dad for the first time in almost a year at the hospital with a new baby.

I know how you feel. My father and I had a sucky relationship but we mended fences. Sadly his moms family has had nothing to do with my sister and I. She showed up at my baby shower for food take home, tried to speak about me at my shower and pronounced my name wrong! Sadly I expressed to my son's grandmother on his dad's side how important it was for him to have them in his life and 5 yrs later they suck. He cries when she comes around and fakes sleep so he doesn't have to go with her. And then she has the nerve to be upset bc he isn't fond of her.... DUDE IT'S YOUR FAULT!!!! Lol @jwalkn4

@leonandmarleighsmommy__, right! I just feel if he does show up that, that will be it.. he won't make an effort to continue to have a relationship afterwards and that's the "relationship" I have had and it's done more damage then good. I want him to have a constant relationship or none at all. And I don't want him blaming me for my child wanting nothing to do with him, if that happens.

I completely understand! It would be better for him not to be there at all for him to be in and out. That's how my son's grandmother is. Even knowing I'm 6 months pregnant and home alone because her so. Works from 4:30 pm til 5 a.m. 6 days a week and our son has autism and adhd she doesn't off to help me at all. I'm always tired and I've been sick during this pregnancy and if I need her help I have to reach out to her. I feel like I shouldn't have to reach out to she knows what's going on so she could call to see if I need help... Smh I've given up now though. It's not going to change and I refuse for the same thing to happen with my baby girl. @jwalkn4

I totally understand! Take care of you and yours!! All you can do! @leonandmarleighsmommy__

You as well!!! No stressing!!! @jwalkn4