Last pregnancy I kept the gender a every until the baby shower. This year I am kind of wanting to…

Last pregnancy I kept the gender a every until the baby shower. This year I am kind of wanting to keep the name a secret but I'm not at the same time especially if it is a boy. If it's a boy, his middle name will be frank after his great grandpa (the one that just died). I also found out that I was almost named ruby which will be our daughters name if this one is a girl. So I'm really tossed up.