my mother left when I was 6 came back to the state when I was 7 and took us during school breaks until I was 11 then…

my mother left when I was 6 came back to the state when I was 7 and took us during school breaks until I was 11 then nothing no letters no call no going back to her house... I've always been more mature because of what point in my life that she left. and because of that I've also been more of a realist... I try so desperately not to get my hopes up anymore.. with the situation that I posted about a little bit ago... do you think it's bad of me to speak to my husband from a realistic point of view?... I mean or is that just more torture...because he already knows what I'm talking about he just is getting his hopes up so much that his dad will get better when there's still a stronger chance of him going belly up instead.. I just don't want him to hurt more by getting his hopes up and then his dad still dying...