when my last son was born we made a generic sign and hung it up. that way it didn't judge just one person. it was the rule for everyone who came in! be creative.

well its important that she listens because it can effect the baby's health. so if she can't do that, then she shouldn't be around the baby, because the baby's health is more important than what she wants to do. my children's doctor always talks about third hand smoke(smoke on the clothes,ect), because my mom is a smoker(she visits) but she doesn't believe it can harm someone(I get bad headaches when she's around). So just in force it and let her know its not just her, its for everyone to follow.

@adaraa126, I like rules especially when it comes to his mother @mommadearest_. I tend to be upfront with her she just takes 90% of whata said the wrong way. I told my husband i dont even want her holding our daughter. ( his mom is not the greatest person)

@kelseys, she lives an hr away and doesn't drive. 40 wk appt is monday. I wont let anyone smoke around my kids. but i dont want her even smelling like smoke around her . my soon to be 6 year old usually stays away from her lol

I would just be up front, it's your babygirl you make the rules. I'm sure she'll understand

just explain that its a rule for everyone..even you and your husband..i had to do the same when my son was born

have her come to an appointment. the doctor will talk about third hand smoke, the effects it can have on the baby and what steps should be done to prevent that. or have your husband tell her to save you the drama.