Me and my hubby go on dates with our son Silas. Our second son isn't here yet so we'll have to figure out what to do when the time comes lol. We do movie dinner dates in the house while our son sleeps sometimes he's up but doesn't interfere with our time. As of now I don't mind sharing the time between hubby and son. His mom offers to watch Silas so we can do stuff alone so I would say if you have a family member you trust that might help.

That's true we've tried a couple times but the twins have been sick and I'm picky about babysitters.

Date night it a must. Even if it means sitting my a fire in the backyard after kids go to bed. Make time for you and your spouce.