I need y'all's advice. I had this best friend all throughout high school, We were exactly the same…
I need y'all's advice.
I had this best friend all throughout high school, We were exactly the same and did everything together. Well during senior year, she got this boyfriend that was HORRIBLE. He hated me and I hated him. He was obviously really bad for her, but she fell head over heels for him anyway. By the time graduation came around, we were barely talking at all anymore because he was turning her into someone I didn't want to be friends with. (Drugs, drinking, etc)
Well over the summer after graduation, she moved with him two states away where she didn't know ANYONE but him. There were a couple times when they got in a fight and he would kick her out. She'd have nowhere to go, so she'd call me. I was in school, I couldn't leave in the middle of the week and drive 5 hours there and back to get someone that I didn't even really talk to anymore. I felt bad, but I said I couldn't get her.
Anyway, my husband doesn't really understand why I don't want to talk to her anymore.. He's not the type to just drop someone like I can. Well she and that guy broke up and she's living with her parents again, but we still haven't really talked till the other day. I saw on Facebook that she's hanging out with some of our old friends that stopped talking to her when I did. She messaged me and said that she wanted to hang out and meet Henry and all that.. But I'm not really sure if I want her to meet him, or if I even want myself to be in the situation where she could influence me.
What should I do?
Valerie·
Don't let her influence you. You're your own woman. I think you should just hang with her and see how it goes. If you're still uncomfortable then you know it's just not going to work. I'm the Same way, I drop fake people at the snap of my fingers. I don't play that shit, I have no problem cutting People off.
Kimberly ·
You could start with letting out some feelings that have probably been put off to the side for awhile. Tell her how her ditching you for a guy made you feel, and tell her about your life and what you chose to do, how you handled things without her. Sometimes it's good to reconnect. Sometimes it strengthens a friendship, and sometimes it does the opposite. Either way when you're ready I would recommend talking to her online at least and see where it goes from there.
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Мама сына-младенца
I'm not upset with her and I still want to be friends.. It's just, I'm a mom and a wife now. I have more than just me to think about. @valerie_jean
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Мама сына-младенца
@kimberlyyyy_the-preemie-mom,
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take time to think about it and then talk to her when and if you do decide to have her become part of your life. bc it's true you're a mom and a wife now you have your family to think about and you don't need unnecessary drama in your life.
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Мама сына-младенца
I guess I'll start talking to her through messaging and see how it goes from there @mamaash, thank you'