Opinions needed: My boyfriend just said (not asking, basically telling me) maybe his mom can come to…

stand your ground. you have a good reason to feel that way

It's your body and your choice who gets to be with you. I have a good relationship with my MIL, but she's not going to come to any scans or be in the room. She's not my mother, she's never seen my body and has no need to, in my opinion

Oh hell no her ass would not be in my ultrasound ... My boyfriends mother hasn't contacted me or reached out to me my whole pregnancy and if my man think that my child is going to be going with her he has another thing coming , if I can't trust you or feel comfortable with you, I won't feel comfortable with you around my child .

If you don't like me you don't like my child is how I feel.

@laurawendel, @lizibear84, thanks ladies ❤️ that's exactly how I feel, I could see if we had a closer or better relationship then maybe I'd consider it, but to have this woman who I barely have a relationship with, be in a room with me where I'm going to basically be topless and whatnot is just something I'm not okay with. It really irks me especially that he's trying to call the shots on something that doesn't really affect him, and he really doesn't get it; he said "well you guys are all girls and it's nothing they haven't seen before" hopefully it was just a fleeting thought and he won't mention it to her, or she'll decline, but if he brings it up again I'm going to tell him no (unfortunately that'll probably end in an argument and him saying he's not going to come to the appointment, but oh well).

definitely not. always trust your gut and dont second guess yourself or you might end up regreting it. u need people who are going to be 100% supportive thru this whole pregnancy this is a moment for just you and your boyfriend u can just send others pictures if their interested thats what i had to do. when i give birth its just gonna b me and my bf so we can bond with the baby and not have him passed around.

@ash96, lol you sound exactly like me, like any info she gets (and it's usually wrong) is from him instead of her asking me personally "hey how are you? How's the baby?" She asks him and he runs back and tells her stuff and then she gives him her 2 cents about what she thinks is wrong or right or whatever just because she has 4 kids. She hasn't said congratulations or anything to me. He just gets petty and picks arguments over stupid stuff that he knows is wrong. I don't care if she's the grandmother because 1. She's already said she didn't want to be a grandmother and 2. She's had some choice words about me, and it's not like she doesn't have my number so it's not like she can't call or text me. He's just mad that my mom and family is so involved and his family isn't when it's not like it's my choice that they aren't involved.

@jc100495, girl we are literally in the same boat ! No congrats no nothing . She thinks she no everything and asks him everything . She even said I should get an abortion because I'm going to quit school and work( which I didn't) never apologized nothing . So I told him until her and I get on good terms , she's not going to be with my child without me there .

@jc100495, absolutely not. don't let her ruin it for you. explain how you feel to him, if he disagrees then so be it.

@ash96, smh that's exactly how she is! She's so childish. She always has something to say about me but she needs to look at her own kids (I love my boyfriend dearly, but good lord lol I don't think you could pay me enough if I ever had to babysit him and his siblings when they were younger). She keeps telling him stuff like he hasn't gotten to live yet and his life is over and whatnot, and no offense but he's 22, he isn't too young to have a family, and what life hasn't he lived exactly? And she's one to talk about not being able to do what you want anymore because all she does is what she wants; she goes to the casinos and leaves my bf's baby sister home for my BF to watch her, wastes money on lottery, and gets stuff she knows she can't afford, cheats the state, tries to control my boyfriend and treats him like he's her husband, and doesn't teach any of her kids anything or help her youngest (who's 9) with school or anything, it's like please take a good hard look at yourself and the bs you do before you come for me.

@threeplusone2016, @b3autymarkk23 thanks ladies ❤️ I'm hoping he just kind of brought it up as an idea and just forgets about it, but if he brings it back up I'm for sure going to put my foot down.

@jc100495, good for you, girl! trust me, I totally feel you. me and my bf's mom don't get along either. I know how hard it is. especially because he is an only child and a total mama's boy..😒 lol

@jc100495, oh she has some nerve to talk with all of that she does . I'm sorry but if she didn't want her child to have a baby she should've taught him how to use a condom or something since she's "such a perfect person" lol every time me and my BF fight and he bring his mom up I always say ," well your fucking mother should've taught you how to put a condom on since she has an opinion about everything " lol in laws 😞🔫

LOL it's definitely all up to you honey my mother-in-law thought she could be a part of everything after not even contacting with me or even wanting to know anything about the baby so I never let her see the baby while I was in labor nor in a ultrasound father came to do with judge and talk about my baby after she was born so it's definitely up to you I wouldn't do it though