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Support. Talk about every parenting choice. From CIO to vaccines to cosleeping to diapers. Everything.

Be curious and excited about what's going on. It helped relieve some worries and stress

To the mom's and family members

No matter how many blogs you read each pregnancy is different. Don't compare yours with someone else because they may be similar but they are most differently not the same. Tell your family when your ready and when you do...do not let them pressure you into doing something or trying to change your mind. This is your pregnancy not there's

To the spouse

Your wife's body will change in more ways then you can imagine. Support her and love her and don't forget to rub her feet or back. Run to the store of she really wants that candy bar or bag of chips....no matter how late it is.

To the couple

Keep an open line of communication between the two of you. Your relationship is about to be out to the test. Keep your fingers crossed that it will go the way you want but don't hold your breath. If you can get throw the next 9months you can get throw about anything.

Support..? If you're a spouse, realize your girlfriend/fiancé/wife needs you as much as possible. She might look like she has it all under control, but, especially if she's a new mom, she does not, I repeat, DOES NOT have it all under control and she definitely needs every ounce of help she can get. Don't get frustrated or mad when she asks something or makes a mistake. She's learning. Just love her and support her.

Family to remember it's not your baby it's someone else ask mom/dad what they need help with. SO, be patient and attentive, also having a hands on attitude men can do everything the woman can except breast feed 😂. Give mom breaks when baby gets here, just time to herself or take the lead for the night in AM feedings. Be as supportive as you can during the pregnancy, spoil her however you can, take some weight off by doing the laundry that week or taking the kids do practice Etc.

@rockysmommy, absolutely!

I think for your SO the best thing he can do is the "little things." Little things make your world go round and you don't even realize it. Take out the trash, pick up her clothes from the floor when she starts to hit 5 months along cause heaven knows we can't pick up that crap lol. Think of things that are small that will make her day easier.

family : if she is not a ftm and/or doesn't ask for help Don't and i repeat DONT try telling us what we can and cant do with our child. it's annoying

@mv92, amen to that! my husband tried telling me something the other day and I just had to ignore it or I'd have snapped. He works 14 hrs a day 7 days a week and not because he has to either. so I am with the kids 24/7 for the last 7 and 9 years! I know what I'm doing and how I want things done lol!!

@michellevaldez4750, i hate going to my husband's family's when i first had my kids (will avoid going for a while after i have this one) , every little thing i did they had something to say its like shut up! ugh

advice to family other than SO is if mom and dad don't take your advice, let it go and don't push your opinions on them because it will end up causing issues and tension. Also for SO ask mom exactly what she feels like she needs help with. For example I was completely fine being the one up with the babies in the middle of the night, even if he got up to feed them I'd be awake anyway just because I couldn't sleep until I knew baby was back to sleep so it was pointless for him to do that. (unless he wants to do it) but I really could have used his help with things like dishes and especially laundry those first few weeks/months.

@mv92, yes! it makes you not even want to be around them. and you'd think they'd get it but ppl like that don't seem to... :-\ my in laws didn't do that but what they did do was give my babies things that I didn't want them having like a freaking pork chop bone to gnaw on at a few months old!! I don't leave them alone with anyone now until they can talk and tell me what's going on lol!

If you're a stay at home parent and your spouse works, don't fight about whose job is "more". Respect one another's role in the family and acknowledge that both of you equally work hard every day to provide for your family. Yes, there will be days where yours is much longer than his/hers, but don't throw it in their face because there will be just as many days that their work day is a lot more than what yours has been. It's ALL about mutual respect and understanding that role each of you brings. Be a team, help one another out.

Don't always think and say you're SO is using pregnancy as an excuse. yes there are pregnancies that are a breeze for some but for others it can be difficult and every pregnancy is different. just because your SO had an easier pregnancy the first time doesn't mean their current one isn't more difficult.

my pregnancy , my baby, my rules.. I understand your gmom, and gpop. I understand this is your first grandchild, nephew/niece.. I understand you just care but PLEASE do NOT tell me or even give your thought on how to raise MY child. Please understand I wouldn't put my own child in any danger or risk her/his health even if you feel uncomfortable with my decision or even my opinion.. that is all. Be there for my child , but remember, you're not the one who birthed him/her and who is raising him/her .

@boenischpartyof5, amen!!

I agree with @boenischpartyof5 and also, for SO, just being willing to help out, being loving/caring, and be excited about being with the fam. 😊

Respect the mother. Period. It doesn't matter how many kids you've already raised, now I'm raising mine. I respect mom's and MIL's having done this before successfully, but their kids are now grown it's time to back off a little.

Its okay to be nervous. A baby is a big change.

[Spouses & Significant Others] You think the pregnancy is hard? The 4th trimester (postpartum) is the hardest trimester of all. We know you're exhausted, but we need you now more than ever. Our emotions are everywhere, and our bodies are forever changed. We are learning to be the new mother that we are. We need you, now more than ever, to be a strong supporter. Help out anyway you can. Laundry, dishes, feedings, changings, dinner time, bath time. You name it! The more you help, the more we will love and appreciate you, and we will "heal" much faster.

my boyfriend has been such an amazing support system my whole pregnancy. He can't necessarily take the pain I have away or anything like that, but he really proves that simply being there is the most important thing. He hasn't missed one single doctors appointment. His dedication to the pregnancy really shows how he is going to be as a father. I hope once the "4th trimester" hits he is just as ready to be there, haha!

Sleep sleep sleep while your pregnant. I took all the time I had to sleep for granted and now I see why people say to sleep while you can

@jennatess, amen. I'd say the same.