I know what a lot of woman's response will be to this but I need opinions/help.... Back in November I found out I was expecting baby number two and just a month later I found out the father of my children had been cheating on me ever since we found out number two was on his way. Well it's now 5 months later and he's been broken up with her for a bit and now wants his family back and wants us to move back in with him. This whole time I've lost 40 pounds (yes, during my pregnancy) and at the beginning of this all he turned his back. He wanted nothing to do with our daughter and definitely wanted nothing to do with me... So I guess what I'm asking is what would you guys do in this situation?
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I went through that 10 years ago with the father of my oldest child. We eventually got married I never trusted him he still cheated and lied only it got worse bc he felt i wouldnt go anywhere(I didn't find out till the end) worst of all he didn't put his family first. We got divorced in October I wasted practically all of my 20's trying to be a family. There was good but the bad out weighed the good. it depends how much you can take if infidelity and lying is not a deal breaker for you down the line take him back. I think about it daily where I would be in life if i had just continued being a single mom and working on my self.....
Oh believe me I have been. He's told me since the very beginning if February that he wants his family back. I told him he has to get a different job from that girl and his own apartment and he's done those two things! Also told him a few other things that he has done!! @leslie863
I'm with @mamaash BUT if you do want to go back make him prove to you he want his family back don't make it easy for him cuz if you do you'll be going in circles.... Tell & demand what you want from him as a (MAN) @wrap_with_halie
Oh there would definitely be trust issues! There were trust issues before bcuz he ALWAYS lied. He would lie about what he ate that's how bad he would lie..... @mamaash
I personally couldn't do it. even before I had my son I wouldn't be able to and even more so now I couldn't. I would be more than happy to have him be apart of his child's life tho but when it comes to me and him we would be through. I don't think I could ever trust him again. I would always think he's doing something sketchy and I wouldn't wanna put myself in that situation. I would think if you can get over it completely then sure go ahead try but if u know you might have doubts and trust issues and it might change you into being someone u don't wanna be then I would say don't
Oh wow. That's another thing.... I really don't want to take a chance of it happening again even though be tells me he would never do it again, but would going back to him make him see that I'd run back to him everytime bcuz oh believe me I wouldn't! He doesn't believe he cheated on me in the first place he they didn't have sex or kiss... But I told him if he has to sneak being with her and texting her and stuff then that's cheating. Also telling her we had been broken up when we really weren't that's cheating! Then he had to lie to me and sneak my daughter around her while he left me at home and wouldn't answer my calls or texts.