yeah I'm only 18 haha, and idk I've learned a lot. I guess I learn fast lol @bree_55

Same problem I just left him and I'm due this weekend I just won't deal with it or put my son through it there's no trust and I don't feel the same I'm okay with that but it's up to you everyone takes situations differently

@savvylynn1, you are only 18?? you are better at this then I am lol.. & you have a good point I know he loves me.. & I'll find a time to bring it up & ask him about it.. the little shit is trying to snuggle me right now lol

then if you've caught him, and for sure seen it then ask him. but make sure it was messages with a girl and not just trash or stuff he doesn't need on his phone anymore , that way it doesn't start a fight if it wasn't with a girl, and just straight up ask him why he's hiding stuff from you. let him know it bothers you and you don't want that. just be like babe i keep seeing you delete stuff & see how he reacts. guys reactions to everything normally 80% of the time gives you the answer without them even answering

thanks! I have so many opinions on a lot of things & im only 18. I'm to mature for my age lol but those are just tricks I've learned. I still do it sometimes , oh babe can I see your phone for a second? yeah sure. or whatever it works. I promise. just be confident in him & your relationship. he's with you for a reason, he comes home to you, and lives his everyday life with you by his side because he chooses too. good luck if you wanna talk you can message me any time :) @bree_55

@savvylynn1, that is very true.. I've already caught him deleting stuff today so I don't know how to go about that one.. but if he keeps it up he will be sleeping on the couch..

I've just learned with my experience is to be confident in your man. because if he chooses to do something , that's his choice. not yours and you can't do anything about it honestly.

@savvylynn1, you are genius!! :) I'll wait till he gets a message or snap chat or something then do it.. :) that's a good idea!! I haven't thought of that..

and whenever I'd go through his phone, he would get mad like you don't trust me babe blah blah and it would make me feel bad and I do have insecurity issues and I worry all the time, but if he didn't love you , he wouldn't be with you. Felix tells me this all the time whenever I bring anything up about another girl or I'm insecure , he says I went to marry you in front of my family and friends, u live with me and my family , I chose you. we're having a baby , you're the mother of my child. you know? if your boyfriend didn't want to be with you he wouldn't. like just that simple honestly. if he wanted to be with someone else , guys wouldn't waist their time.

@bree_55 Your welcome! @savvylynn1 Great Point!

do it at random times(asking for his phone) , not to much to where he would notice. but just so it catches him by surprise. if you guys are in the car and you guys plug your phones into the aux if his is plugged in , be like let me pick a song and see how he reacts.

@savvylynn1, I'm going to try that later today.. thank you..

my husband and I have been together almost 4 years, been married almost 3 months. I use to go through his phone and there use to be girls hitting him up for weed (he use to sell before we got married) & it would make me mad but he would be like babe look through it, they'd just customers. blah blah and I'd be okay with it. id go with him to deliver the gram or eighth or whatever they bought and it would literally be like they'd come to the window or get in the back and he'd hand it off and they'd be like thanks and say hi to me , and now we're at the point where I don't go through his phone and he doesn't go through mine. BUT I know if I need his phone, or I wanna use it or whatever he says that's fine , I've taken it to school when mine was broke and everything. just ask him be like babe can I use your phone real fast to call so and so? mine keeps cutting out and if he freaks out about it and Is all hold on and he goes in and erases things , then worry. if he just hands it to you, and says yeah sure then you shouldn't worry about it.

@amorylealtad, yup.. my exact thoughts.. & yeah ill try to do that.. thanks gf.. :)

What? lmao even dogs come home ... the man/woman coming home doesn't mean a damn thing it's about having the family , building a foundation of love and respect and loyalty and if someone feels like they don't have that then that's something that needs to be worked on .. ...@bree_55, only you know what's best to do in your situation. .. I don't know your spiritual beliefs but I would tell you to just pray on it or give it some thought and go with what you feel is best

@pregomego, we'll everyone is different & I'm not going to have him hiding things & talking to other people then come home to me & his daughter at night.. You can't have your cake & eat it too.. @amorylealtad I completely agree.. I do respect him & let him do his things & give him his space but the deleting crap is making me wonder.. yeah sure come home to me & our baby it's important & I end up with herpes or something.. that's my exact thoughts.. I honestly don't think he would ever cheat on me but the deleting things from certain people is weird.. @tunchezbaby makes sense.. if he goes through mine I'm going to want to look at his.. I wish we didn't have social media or phones.. I should of been born in the early 1900's.. 😐😐

no trust No us that's all I'm saying... I've been with my hubby since 09 and not once have we gone through one another's phone I take his phone sometimes when I can't find mine and he does the same

😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒All though trust may be the key to a long-lasting relationship if someone gives you a reason not to trust them in a relationship it isny going to last.... I'm tired of that old saying if you look for it you'll find it well you know what I rather look (and hopefully be proven wrong)then end up being made a fool, or with fucking HIV or an STD that I can't get rid of . Baby girl you do what's best for you and what YOU feel in your heart ...Apparently something in your heart is telling you to look in the first place... Yes there are times where we should try to respect our significant others privacy but if there are signs and things that are telling you something is up then you need to go with your heart fuck the bullshit

@alexandrea777, that's what I was getting at.. I don't care that he has friends but what's with the deleting messages?? I'll inbox you..

I don't go through my husbands things to know if he deletes them because I trust him. Talk is talk and flirting is flirting as long as he comes home to me and our daughter that's what's important.

@pregomego, he does go through my shit.. & I don't delete my things.. I'm not worried about this other woman stealing anyone away & if she does then good bye.. good luck wish you both happiness!! Trust is the foundation of happiness yes.. How do you trust someone who deletes things?!

he should have nothing to hide... deleting shows there's something he doesn't want you to see.Thats not cool at all there should be 0 secrets between you two... I'd confront him it's not good for you to keep it in.. Hoping for the best for you both.. I'm here for ya if you ever need to talk.

If you start looking for stuff you'll find it. Trust is the foundation of a long lasting relationship. If you are concerned that this other woman, who is married now, might steal him away that's on you. He can't fix your confidence. Be more secure in who you are and what you have to offer, stop acting crazy. You wouldn't like it if he went through your phone and purse, the man deserves privacy.