yeah I'm only 18 haha, and idk I've learned a lot. I guess I learn fast lol @bree_55

Same problem I just left him and I'm due this weekend I just won't deal with it or put my son through it there's no trust and I don't feel the same I'm okay with that but it's up to you everyone takes situations differently

@savvylynn1, you are only 18?? you are better at this then I am lol.. & you have a good point I know he loves me.. & I'll find a time to bring it up & ask him about it.. the little shit is trying to snuggle me right now lol

then if you've caught him, and for sure seen it then ask him. but make sure it was messages with a girl and not just trash or stuff he doesn't need on his phone anymore , that way it doesn't start a fight if it wasn't with a girl, and just straight up ask him why he's hiding stuff from you. let him know it bothers you and you don't want that. just be like babe i keep seeing you delete stuff & see how he reacts. guys reactions to everything normally 80% of the time gives you the answer without them even answering

thanks! I have so many opinions on a lot of things & im only 18. I'm to mature for my age lol but those are just tricks I've learned. I still do it sometimes , oh babe can I see your phone for a second? yeah sure. or whatever it works. I promise. just be confident in him & your relationship. he's with you for a reason, he comes home to you, and lives his everyday life with you by his side because he chooses too. good luck if you wanna talk you can message me any time :) @bree_55

@savvylynn1, that is very true.. I've already caught him deleting stuff today so I don't know how to go about that one.. but if he keeps it up he will be sleeping on the couch..

I've just learned with my experience is to be confident in your man. because if he chooses to do something , that's his choice. not yours and you can't do anything about it honestly.

@savvylynn1, you are genius!! :) I'll wait till he gets a message or snap chat or something then do it.. :) that's a good idea!! I haven't thought of that..

and whenever I'd go through his phone, he would get mad like you don't trust me babe blah blah and it would make me feel bad and I do have insecurity issues and I worry all the time, but if he didn't love you , he wouldn't be with you. Felix tells me this all the time whenever I bring anything up about another girl or I'm insecure , he says I went to marry you in front of my family and friends, u live with me and my family , I chose you. we're having a baby , you're the mother of my child. you know? if your boyfriend didn't want to be with you he wouldn't. like just that simple honestly. if he wanted to be with someone else , guys wouldn't waist their time.

@bree_55 Your welcome! @savvylynn1 Great Point!

do it at random times(asking for his phone) , not to much to where he would notice. but just so it catches him by surprise. if you guys are in the car and you guys plug your phones into the aux if his is plugged in , be like let me pick a song and see how he reacts.

@savvylynn1, I'm going to try that later today.. thank you..

my husband and I have been together almost 4 years, been married almost 3 months. I use to go through his phone and there use to be girls hitting him up for weed (he use to sell before we got married) & it would make me mad but he would be like babe look through it, they'd just customers. blah blah and I'd be okay with it. id go with him to deliver the gram or eighth or whatever they bought and it would literally be like they'd come to the window or get in the back and he'd hand it off and they'd be like thanks and say hi to me , and now we're at the point where I don't go through his phone and he doesn't go through mine. BUT I know if I need his phone, or I wanna use it or whatever he says that's fine , I've taken it to school when mine was broke and everything. just ask him be like babe can I use your phone real fast to call so and so? mine keeps cutting out and if he freaks out about it and Is all hold on and he goes in and erases things , then worry. if he just hands it to you, and says yeah sure then you shouldn't worry about it.

@amorylealtad, yup.. my exact thoughts.. & yeah ill try to do that.. thanks gf.. :)

What? lmao even dogs come home ... the man/woman coming home doesn't mean a damn thing it's about having the family , building a foundation of love and respect and loyalty and if someone feels like they don't have that then that's something that needs to be worked on .. ...@bree_55, only you know what's best to do in your situation. .. I don't know your spiritual beliefs but I would tell you to just pray on it or give it some thought and go with what you feel is best