Alright so , of course you guys , or some of you know that me & my lovely boyfriend have decided to…
Alright so , of course you guys , or some of you know that me & my lovely boyfriend have decided to move in together . Not anytime soon but within the next year or two maybe . We're waiting for personal reasons. But , there is one thing that stands out to me & that would be ....my name isn't gonna be attached to anything . & hearing that kind of hurt a little because , I already don't have anything in my name as it is . Like I don't have anything I can call my own & that makes feel insecure . I have nothing in life I can look at & say "I did that , on my own." Ya know & it just makes me not want to move in with him now cuz I don't want to be taken care of . I'm not a little girl . I'm almost 24 years old . When will I ever get to feel independent on my own ? When will I ever get that luxury of feeling like I've done something responsible for myself for a change ? My question is guys, has any of ladies had or have a man that makes more money than you & wants to carry all the weight ? & how do you deal with it ?
Jazmyne·
I did once upon a time. I sat him down had a talk and made sure I let him know how much appreciated him and how much he provides for us and told him that I would like to contribute too. So he let me pay a bill or two and then we would come up with games to see who would pay for dates but making sure it was fair and we were able to contribute 50/50
Jazmyne·
I paid for my own car and insurance and gas when we first started and it was the best feeling in the world.
Emma·
I'm sort of in the same boat as you. I've worked since I was 16 and I've always tried to be as independent as possible but now my boyfriend has a good paying job and wants me to stay home with the baby for awhile so I quit my job. most people would be estatic, but it scares the crap out of me. I hate to be dependent and I hate not making my own money. I'm terrified of something happening with us and then I'm screwed but I have to keep telling myself that staying home with my daughter is what's best for her. it's not easy dealing with the fact that he makes the money and I don't but I'm just doing my best to enjoy this. I know I'll go back to work eventually. you just need to keep reminding yourself that it won't be like this forever. You'll eventually get your feet on the ground and get stuff in your name and everything will get better but for now just keep in mind that it's not a competition. it doesn't matter if he makes more money right now, what matters is that your both trying to better your future together and be happy :)
Shea·
В ожидании первенца
I agree with @mrsschmalz but if you guys get an apartment together most places require everyone who 18+ to be on the lease. But if you want it girl you gotta go out & get it. Oh & you have your children they are YOURS you could look at them babies and say "I did that" 😊
Alexa·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
In this type of situation, I thibk you just have to really trust your SO, you know? and maybe even get married so that you have more legal rights to your home, etc. Idk if I am just weird lol but I love being taken care of and spoiled by my husband while staying home with the kids. I worked from 15 years old until I had my first baby and don't miss it one bit. Although I am on the lease for our apartment and my name is on the car even though he pays for it . . . so maybe it's easy for me to say when I still have things in my name. but anyway, my point is, if you are with a good guy, being taken care of while you care for his child or children can be great. Raising good kids is a bigger accomplishment than any financial goals anyway :)
danni·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
besides don't minimize your job as you stay home! there's nothing easy for it! and the way I see things if I worked I'd be handing my check right to babysitters and being with me is best for my baby. Also I handle the bills and have his checks each week so I'm an important roll. I don't feel like things r handed to me as much as if he were just to pay without me involved. there's much more than your initial feelings trust me. I hated being "taken care of" but I don't see that I am really anymore....