So I might be hormonal or maybe I'm not, here's my story.....So my boyfriends mom has had a stick up…

@hermommy @cubanese @emkasting

you can tell the staff at the hospital that no one can come see you without knowing a password or something like that.

I also don't want my boyfriend to tell people I'm in the hospital. I said tell them after he's born. His reply was "well I'll tell my dad we're on the way" like fine but I know how family is. They'll show up regardless. I don't even want people in my room and I know they'll all be sitting in the waiting room. I just feel like I should give up because no one is going to respect my wishes.😢

Oh I plan on telling them specifically that I don't want his mom there. In all honesty I don't want any visitors, not even really after he's born. I'm a private person and just want to be left alone period. @brynden.nicholle.0716

I would be the same way and of make sure my wishes were met! grandma or not she owes some sort of sorry and explaination. I wouldn't just be like ok like it hasn't happened! people always try to come in at the end when it's the fun part...no thanks!!

@jacesterlingsmommy, I semi know the feeling. His dad an step mom won't acknowledge me in there family or anything they have yet to ask how the baby is doing didn't come to the baby shower. He's back to talking to them while I still feel like shit. They said I'm nothing but trouble, think I'm a gold digger ect.. I'm sorry you have to go through that with her

Yeah no definitely not, you're right in this situation... She cant treat y'all that way and then try to show up😡😡 give the hospital her name and they'll ask every woman that comes up their name when she says hers it'll be sorry you're not allowed.

I hear ya. with my first, I wasn't even the first person to hold my daughter. I got to pat her on the head... but everyone else got to hold her and I felt like I was only there to feed her.

It just makes me feel like I'm overreacting since he says the problem is with her and him not me. I'll never forget what she did that's for sure. She may eventually apologize to my boyfriend (and he's her only child having his 1st baby) but I doubt I'll ever get one. I'm sure I'll have to just get over it or I'll be the asshole one. His sister tried starting some crap all over a stupid rocking chair and went and threw a fit to their dad, making me look bad when she was lying about what happened. She got over it but I never got an apology. I just feel like the odd man out constantly. I'll never feel like I actually belong or that my feelings will ever matter. It's frustrating and upsetting to me. I just don't know what to do. I don't want his family to think I'm some bitch from hell. @cubanese @hermommy

@jacesterlingsmommy I'm sure they dont, when people act that way they know who is truly at fault... honestly it sounds like they're trying to see just how far they can get with you until you turn spastic and freak out. I don't think you're over reacting because I have done the same to joe just in a different situation

Ohh man I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriends mom begged us for a grandchild ever since we started dating damn near. Then it happens and she told me that I need to give him up for adoption if I want "any chance at him NOT being fucked up" and she told me to do this behind chris's back (her son). She said since we aren't married he doesn't have a right to know anything and that he will find out when the baby is born. She wanted me to put his son up for adoption and not tell him. Needless to say she is completely out of me and chris's lives. I haven't seen her since I was like 26 weeks. She is also not welcome at the hospital. If she did try to show up which won't happen since she doesn't know when I'm delivering, she's gonna be on the list of people not to let in. So I know exactly how you feel, not wanting her to have any part at all in your pregnancy. I wouldn't have wanted her to see the maternity pics either! If you're worried even at the possibility of her coming in to the hospital, make sure the staff knows and they won't let her in to see you. My boyfriend and I talked about this a long time ago and we're not telling anyone I'm in the hospital when he's born. The only people that will know are us and my mother only because we are staying with her until our house is done in June. You gotta make your boyfriend understand that you don't want them knowing at ALL. Not that you're there, not that you're on the way, nothing. It all boils down to you being comfortable. I can relate to how you're feeling I really really can so I'm just telling you what I personally would do. He needs to put his feelings for his family aside (sorry if that's sounds harsh) and put his focus completely on you. In my case I personally wouldn't be able to even focus on giving birth if I knew chris's freak of a mother was waiting outside the waiting room. Tell him if they show up you'll have security remove them, so hopefully to avoid that mess he won't invite them at all, even inadvertently by telling them you're there

I promise you're not overreacting. You're about to be giving birth to your first baby and you don't what the experience ruined by idiots, lol. I'm just like you, I don't want any visitors in the hospital, not even my own mother. I want this whole experience to be for my boyfriend and I. We can have visitors when he comes home, but while we're in the hospital I'm not even gonna tell anyone we are there!

Thank you very much for all of your input. I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. I just talked to my boyfriend and he is on board for just us at the hospital, thankfully. We decided if people want to see the baby they'll just have to wait until we're home and settled in. It all really depends how long I'm even at the hospital for anyway. I'm hoping to have no epidural and around here the stay is 24 hours. Unless I'm there longer recovering longer then a few people can come see him. @cubanese @emkasting @hermommy

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