I just need to like... vent. And cry while I'm typing and let my emotions out. Cause my fiance can't…
I just need to like... vent. And cry while I'm typing and let my emotions out. Cause my fiance can't talk right now and I feel like I'm crazy. I've been working my butt off lately. Trying my hardest to make money just to pay for gas and my car insurance and car note. That's it. And I can barely make enough money just for that. I have two jobs. I'm almost 35 weeks pregnant. And I am exhausted all the time. All I do is work and come home and sleep. My fiance would help me out as much as I needed but he is having a hard time finding a job. I am trying so hard to work as hard as I can. But someone please tell me I'm not crazy in thinking I need to slow down. I keep trying to talk myself out of the physical pain I've been having. Like I'm trying to convince myself I'm just faking it. And I'm not. When I tell family about it I don't believe the words that come out of my own mouth even though they are 100% true. I am going to talk to my doctor about it tomorrow because I've been having a hard time simply walking at a slow pace without having bad lower stomach pain. Between working so hard and pushing myself even harder my anxiety has gotten bad again. I just need to hear that I'm not being lazy or ungrateful by needing to slow down. Because that's how I feel.
Jasmine·
Мама сына (5 лет)
I was just hospitalized for over doing it. My Dr told me to cut back on hours but I can't afford it. I'm bawling right now bc the pain is so bad! They did an MRI on Monday bc they thought I had a blood clot in my head bc of my migraines. It's tough being broke. I even make good money but whenever I get a little a head my car breaks or the furnace and everything else under the sun! My Dr wants me on bedrest, well that can't happen.
Sarah·
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@jheyer1109 Its so tough. and I've tried to get state or government help. but I get nothing before the baby is born. it's ridiculous.
Jasmine·
Мама сына (5 лет)
I wish you the best!!! I'm looking into cashing out my 401k tomorrow so I can go on bedrest. I'm going to lose big but it needs to be done
Sarah·
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@jheyer1109 I hope everything works out for you! god bless you and your baby.
stephanie·
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girl slow down
stephanie·
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do they have short term disability
natasha·
Do NOT feel bad at all. You are absolutely overdoing it and im sure any doctor would tell you that you need to cut your hours significantly. Stress and anxiety hormones reaches the baby, so they know when you're feeling like this. We were/are in a HUGE financial hole but I refused to allow my body to go through that and my babies feel it. It's just not worth it. Is there any way you can lower your insurance? Your fiancé needs to get a job anywhere. Whether it be fast food or somewhere else. You do what you have to do to support your family and just saying that he's trying isn't enough anymore. Have you applied for WIC? You can get that even before you have the baby. Food stamps too. WIC helped with groceries so much even before my babies were here
Sarah·
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@boenischpartyof5 I already have WIC and food stamps. and I'm pretty sure my insurance is canceled as of today because I wasn't able to pay it and I got a cancellation notice. I'm going to talk to my doctor about giving me like a written advisory to cut my hours and rest more. that way my family will also see it's not just me making things up.
natasha·
@lovely_girl211, do your jobs fall under FMLA? I'm sure if any one of your family members were working 2 jobs full time while almost term, they wouldn't be too excited either. I quit my job at 32 weeks because I went into preterm labor. Before that I had to cut my hours from 50 to 30 and it was still too much
Sarah·
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@boenischpartyof5 I have two part time jobs. but both together is like working a full time job. which can be challenging when I'm not pregnant. but while pregnant it's about killed me.
natasha·
@lovely_girl211, ohh okay, well in that case you won't be qualified for disability or FMLA unfortunately :/. Definitely talk to your doctor about your hours and how your feeling. My MFM always told me that stress can do more harm on your body than most other things, and I always kept that in mind when it came to working. If it makes you feel better, my insurance was cancelled too 😓