Love how my boyfriend brags to me about all the stuff he got his mom and the 200 dollars he gave her…

they need to grow up. ..it's going to be hard for him if his mom act like that. if anything she should be happy your having his baby and ready to give you some of the stuff or something. ...

@cjones, yeah she's very much just into being petty and causing drama. she hasn't parted her lips to say a single word to me since finding out back in March, and although I'd like my child to have its entire family and both sets of grandparents I can't force her to act right and I'm not going to waste my time anymore trying to please her or be worried about her, even when she and I weren't on talking terms last year I at least made it a point to reach out to her and say Happy Mother's Day and when we were okay I got her a gift for her birthday and Christmas. Honestly Im not horribly upset that he didn't buy me anything although even something as simple as flowers or a nice breakfast or lunch date would've been nice, I honestly would've been happy if he just bought the baby something as my Mother's Day gift seeing as we only have a good 22 weeks to get everything in place and he's the only one with a steady income because my job has been cutting my hours constantly even though they know it's my only job and that right now I need the hours more than ever because I not only have baby stuff to buy but bills to pay and am in the process of moving as well, however the people getting all the hours are those that don't have bills to pay like that and don't have children or children on the way. He fails to remember while blowing all this money on his mom that anytime his mother was not a mother to him and would kick him out or threaten to because she didn't like that we were together or just be really nasty to him my mother took him in and let him stay in our house rent free for as long as he needed and wanted with no issues and loves him as one of her own to the point where she's paid his phone bill a few times and has given him an extra phone we have times that nobody's able to pay his bill just so that he had an emergency phone, he hasn't even parted his lips to call her and say happy Mother's Day either. His mom is a lot younger than my mom and she doesn't want to be a grandmother and has proven it many times, I'm not expecting her help once the baby gets here or even before honestly, and I hope he can just get it through his head that he now has bigger priorities than kissing up to his mom.

Oh trust me when I say he will either see karma or the truth when the baby comes out it might happen again @jc100495

@cjones, Definitely. Right now because he's still kissing her butt and jumping through hoops for her and not even doing the bare minimum for the baby or me he's in her good graces, but once he or even his mom starts missing out on stuff that they'll want to be a part of he'll come to his senses and she'll be mad and start with her kicking him out or something, but I won't care, and I don't want to hear a single word from him or her once the baby's here if I choose not to bring it around his mom and don't want her to come see the baby in the hospital because she's just too fake and negative for me and my child doesn't need to be exposed to that.

@jc100495, just be grown about it and always look out for you and the baby. if she wants to say hi tell her to keep it short tell her no hard feelings is just you don't want your baby to see that you two don't really get along and rather not be a b*tch about it so your going to let her see the baby but that it had to be short the moment she gives drama politely ask her to leave until you feel comfortable about her coming around and as for him just let him be give him minimal attention once he see you don't care he will feel a little in his feelings..... I kind of went through the same thing for years. it still happens but my husband is kind of blind to it on how his mom doesn't really like me she's only okay with it now because it's been 8 years total, 1 year marriage, and now this pregnancy she sees that he is where he wants to be. I use to cry because his family was mean to me and all he said was ignore them but still go around them. I went for support but I always stayed to myself but now they all of a sudden love me. throwing my baby shower, giving me things and his mom always talking to me when she see me but to this day I keep it short to them all. because they do way too much and back in the day they believed my husband was the best to happen in the family and I turned him against them but because I fall back and don't say or do anything they are slowly starting to see the truth on their own.

@cjones, I'll definitely be grown about it, she can see the child once it's born and whatnot, I won't make a huge fuss if she decides to pop up, but I just don't want to be jumping through hoops to appease someone like her when she really doesn't care and just feels so entitled. I don't mind if she wants to see the baby and it's a quick little ordeal and she is actually going to be decent, but she hasn't shown any sign of that or even wanting to be involved so I'm just going to take it day by day and see how things pan out, and yeah, I definitely think I'll be giving him minimal attention until he gets it together, right now I do little things like if he brings up irrelevant stuff I ignore him or kind of change the topic to baby stuff so that he kind of gets the hint that that's what needs to be being thought about and not whatever foolishness he's worried about, but I don't push it after I bring it up or if I start a conversation with him I make sure it's about important stuff and I say what I need to say and leave it alone. There was a point where I just ignored him for a few weeks to the point where he got the point and started to get his act together so I know that if I do that again it'll work for this situation as well. We're only a little over 2 years in as an actual committed relationship and this is our first child and there have been a few incidents where he's tried the whole just ignore them thing but it's so hard when my family's so accepting and open to have to deal with them and how polar opposite they are; I'd still go around when he asked regardless of their feelings, and if we both knew something was a bad idea to take part in I'd respectfully not go, even if there's things I go to now I keep to myself and him and maybe two of his extended relatives that don't know the deal with his mother and I and that's about it.

@jc100495, my family is the same way they would all about him and everything his family don't do that but I swear I think this baby is going to have them up my ass...