am I the one who's wrong?

@themommaoffour, heck no I would do the same thing! Kids ... Even young.. Notice things like that. ESP your oldest, will ask why aunt "" went to visit the baby but hasn't seen me in ... However long. If I haven't talked to you/you talked to me... My entire pregnancy, you aren't coming to the hospital or gonna be around my baby. Which is 3/4 my family! They are gonna be shocked when they don't get the text that baby is here or when they ask to come see baby when they hear he is here, and no response is given. #sorryiamnotsorry

nope! I feel the exact same way!

@candacelouise, it's heartbreaking because my oldest is almost 5 and keeps asking me to ask YaYa (her Aunt Laura) and DayDay (cousin Danielle) if she can go and have a sleepover cause she misses them. well I don't even bother cause I know neither of them will message me back. My almost 3 year old doesn't hleven like her aunt and my one year old doesn't know who they are. my husband has his dad and sister one his dad's side and that's it. I have both of my parents (occasionally) 3 of my older sisters and my niece on my side of the family who have been involved since day one. it's sad that family can't pull their selves together for children.

@themommaoffour, aweeee and that's the worst part. Having to "fib" to the kids! And hearing them ask about them is heart breaking! 😔

Hell no you're not wrong. even if you didn't have a reason for not wanting certain ppl up at the hospital it should be completely up to you who and how often ppl come up there during those first few days! and you're not even doing it selfishly, you're thinking about your children's feelings!

It's messed up how ppl need to come see the baby but then forget about them once they're not "babies" anymore smh, unfortunately it's really common, my sister who is my kids' godmother and lives 10 mins from me only sees my kids on holidays :(

nope. tell your nurses too, they'll keep anyone out you don't want there for you.